okay, I recently told this girl that I liked her and she gives me line "You are the greatest and sweetest guy I know and I love you,...just not the same way you love me" Anyway, It's damn near impossible for me to move on because I really do love her. So, my question is, is it possible that 3 months/6 months/ a year down the road, that she could change her mind. I told her that I would always love her and I'm beginning to think that I really meant it. I really need help on this one guys. I take rejection alot more personally than most do. Instead of hearing "I just don't like you like that", I hear "you will never experience the pleasure of going out with me in your entire life"...yeah....please help
2007-01-26 16:49:34 · 13 answers · asked by Searching4Answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well thanks to that **** scrape at the bottom of the page, I'm pissed off. cr500 I beleive the name was. First off, if I was gay, why would I be head head over heels for a GIRL? second, I'm in high school and am not the most attractive guy due to my being overweight. So, no there are no other girls that are just dying to meet me. I've never even had a g/f and I'm almost 17. To those who are actively trying to help, I thank you from the bottom of my heart,
2007-01-26 17:05:11 · update #1
Move on.
It's never going to get better for you.
Especially if you hang around sighing and making moon eyes.
The only possible chance you have with her is if you give up on her and move on to other relationships.
It's possible she might look at you a year or two later and think she missed a good thing. Then it's possible she'll make a move.
If you hang around she'll get a feeling of contempt for you down inside her (not always shown) and it will never pass.
2007-01-26 17:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by dropkick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been this girl soooo many times. Sorry to say, I've NEVER changed my mind. In fact, time has only ever made me more resolute. There was one ocassion where I briefly changed my mind after I said no and he moved overseas, but I got over that in about 1 day.
Telling a girl who only likes you as a friend that you love her is full on. It's such an uncomfortable position to put her in, and I'm sorry to say that I doubt it aided your case to win her over.
I'm not even convinced that you actually DO love her. If you knew her well enough to be truly, deeply in love with her, you would know that she doesn't love you back. I think that you might have fallen in love with the IDEA that you have constructed of how she is, as opposed to the REALITY of her. (This is very common with guys)
I think that you probably need to take time out from the friendship for a little while until you feel resolved about everything and are able to maintain a totally platonic friendship with her.
I am sure that there are plenty of lovely girls are there who are dying to meet you, and a great match for you will come along soon.
2007-01-27 01:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Snow White 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no real reason to hang on to someone that can possibly erode your confidence and self-esteem.
Don't tear yourself up over her. Put some "distance" between you and her. Love is supposed to be blind and uncompromising.
Apparently she has neither of these attributes. (not meant to be harsh, she has as much right to happiness as you do; your other option is capturing her and owning her like a pet -DO NOT DO THIS)
Just take a few steps back and take a good look at what it is about her you like. Then take an even better look at what you don't like. If you come up with enough demerits, it won't take long before you notice another dozen or so interesting chicks...
BTW, Angela W, good call on the IDEA / REALITY thing.
2007-01-27 01:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Horndog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means You are Just friends. Thats it. Look, I know you dont want to hear this, but the more you care, the less she will care. You got to put your emotions on hold. Start dating other people...trust me on this one. This is what dating other people will do for you:
1. It will build your confidence in yourself.
2. It will help you move on by getting attention from other females.
3. It will catch her attention in 2 ways, she might be miffed or she might see your potential being upped becuase other girls are interested in you.
4. You might not need her by that point, but what goes around comes around. (This is NOT about revenge)
She is telling you in a nice way that you are just too nice and she has no attraction to you. If some one isnt attracted to you, they cant love you no matter how much you want it.
2007-01-27 00:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Searching4Answers,
Most girls know right away whether you're "the one" for them or not, and they never change their minds on that. Don't let these questions from 14 year old girls fool you.
I don't know how old you are but dating and relationships isn't for the faint of heart. You have to be accustomed to rejection if you ever want to talk to girls. You have to be sure of yourself, because girls go for guys who have self-confidence.
Also, you need to check out the Tom Leykis radio show to learn more about what you should do. You definitely need to learn a little Leykis-101 to get more women in your life. Find out if this show is broadcast in your area. Here's his web site:
http://www.blowmeuptom.com
I hope that this helps you. Good luck and happy hunting.
--Rick
2007-01-27 01:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important that you move on down the road. She won't change her mind in 3 months, 6 months, or a year down the road. You however, must.
Otherwise you'll miss out on that wonderful babe that's looking for you. 3, 6 or 12 months down the road. It's a horrible learning experience, I'll admit, but it's gotta be done. You've gotta pay the dues, and you've gotta move on...
2007-01-27 00:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, we mean it when we say we just want to be friends. There's a one in a million chance that she's just not sure of what she wants and could come around, but that's most likely not the case. I completely understand what its like to love someone and to have them tell you that its not going to happen, and we can just be friends. Its torture. Do what you can to move on, but do stay friends if you can take it.
2007-01-27 00:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible for her to feel the same way you do...it could actually be sooner than you think...just show her that u will always be there for her and be very open minded with her...she will see how great of a guy u are and she'll start realizing that she really likes u...but never go to far, stay as close as u can...=)
2007-01-27 00:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by jmclean1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on..she was honest with you and you have to accept that. Yes....she might change her mind, but how much of your life will you waste waiting for her to change? Work on that rejection thing instead of waiting for her. Time will heal this, I promise. But do whatever it takes to move on. Work on yourself, do not obsess about her. Life does indeed go on.
2007-01-27 00:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately No means No. My advice is for you to stay friendly with this girl and go out and find a girl who will like you "like that".
2007-01-27 00:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋