You all make it seem so easy and casual. I'd like to be able to just screw a chick whenever I felt like it without having a relationship. That's what it is, right?
2007-01-26 16:08:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you have to find a girl who's comfortable with her sexuality.
Then you have to find one who doesn't confuse sex with intimacy and isn't looking for a relationship.
Then this she has to find you appealing, and not be in a monogamous relationship with someone else.
On top of that you want one who is basically sane, fair to good looking, clean, and safety conscience (you don't want a disease).
The 60's are dead and gone.
These are one in a ten million.
Good Luck
2007-01-26 16:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by dropkick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from experience, There has to be a connection not just sexual but physical, what I mean by physical is that the person that you hope for having th benefits with, has to desire you and your body, but anyways lol, you should try by getting to know the person and try to not become friends because in the long run you might actually just want to stay friends so you know that's not good. How I started we just that connection, if you want meet different people or go on this site called Craigslist and I'm more then positive you'll find what your looking for I promise you.
Note: It's not that easy sometimes because someone weather it be the male or the female, while having friends with benefits, either one of the two are going to have feelings for more, so always try to stay on task and not get too involved with the person. Just a thought.
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2007-01-27 00:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by natali3x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK so i used to have a relationship with a guy that was a friendship with benefits as you put it. The idea is to find a girl that is not interested in a relationship but still wants the sex. She needs to trust you and you both need to be clear on the boundaries of the relationship so no one gets hurt or has the wrong idea about the relationship and where it is or is not going.
2007-01-27 00:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From watching friends who have those kinds of relationships, I'd say friends with benefits come about when both people like each other but refuse to admit it to each other, so they're not dating so to speak, but they both know that they like each other and act like they're dating. So you have the benefits of a relationship without the technical ties. Eventually though, one of the two gets tired of dancing around the whole "i like you and you like me but we're both too afraid to say anything" and it either becomes a full out relationship or becomes very awkward.
2007-01-27 00:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits can get complicated. First of all, it is something that just happens. But if you find yourself in the opportunity, make your intentions clear so there are no hard feelings! And never, ever sleep with a good friend. IT WILL NEVER WORK OUT!
Good luck!
2007-01-27 00:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by TheAnswerChicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easier said than done my friend. I had one and he got so serious it ruined the friendship. It is not worth it to lose a friend over. Think long and hard before you do anything. There are other ways of getting what you need than to lose a good friend over it. Good luck and happy hunting.
2007-01-27 00:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by kellyfl59 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, and not all woman are up for somthing like that... When i got out of a REALLY bad relationship i was horny, and all i wanted was sex with out all the drama of a relationship. so i found a guy that was into it... and thats how it was for a while... fell in love with him, was with him as a couple for 2 yrs.. broke up a while ago and we are still "friends"
2007-01-27 00:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't want a true friend. I'm sure there is some girl out there without scruples that would be your bed buddy. I'd probably insist any and all of these bed buddies that I'm sure your not the first buddy they've had has all their test and shots!
2007-01-27 00:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by momof7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats called "hit it && quit it" a friend with benifits is YOUR FRIEND that you do stuff with...&& you keep doing stuff with her and only her...but you guys dont go out...you cant just go around banging girls..thats how you get diseases and makes you look like a player wich is a MOJOR turn off!!
2007-01-27 00:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Alisonnnnn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only will happen/ occur, I f the woman you r having it with, knows you for too long and/or she likes you. Viceversa, You must feel something for her also..Other wise, Doubt it big time..
2007-01-27 00:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by teal2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋