Did you feel the same way once the baby was born?
Is it one of those emotional pregnancy things?
What helped getting over it?
2007-01-26 16:05:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes! I think most Mom's worry a little with the second child. I remember wondering if I'd be able to love my second child as much a I did the first one. I did. I remember wondering if having another child would be fair to my first. It was. I can't imagine not having all three of my children . Each one is so special in their own way. They all have different personalities and I can't imagine life without any of them and I don't think they could imagine life without each other. So to answer your questions ...
1.) YES! We all do!
2.) No I just felt happy.
3.) Definitely!
4.) Have that little boy or girl and watch your older child learn how to be the big brother or sister. It is an amazing if not somewhat tiring experience.
Congratulations and good luck.
2007-01-26 16:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am pregnant with my second child.. and feel horrible for my son who is 18 months right now. I mean he is the biggest momma's boy ever. he wants me all of the time and wants to spend as much time with me as possible. And knowing when my baby is born is going to be tough on us both. I am going to hate having to tell him no that I can't do this or taht with him. And he will be 20 months when our next child is born. I know he won't be a momma's boy forever.. and I know more and likely he will probably help me out with this baby.. I haven't given birth yet.. so I don't know if my feelings will change and I don't know how to think about getting over it... just take it one day at a time.. goodluck..
2007-01-26 16:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my second child and my two year old daughter is the center of attention at all times. When the new baby comes I'm scared that she will feel hurt when I'm constantly looking after the new baby. And it's going to be hard to give them both the attention they need so I have no clue what to expect. I also feel bad for the one I'm pregnant with now. I don't feel as "in touch" with him as I did with my first pregnancy, as I'm constantly thinking about my daughter and trying to make her happy. So it goes both ways I guess, but I think once the new one comes it will put your mind at ease. Good luck!
2007-01-26 17:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Alene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! I'm astonished by these answers!!
Your family is growing... that's a reason to rejoice! Your first born children, folks, are going to experience being an older sibling, setting the standard for the younger children that come along.
The first borns will take their clues from you, parents. So if you treat the new baby like the gift that it is, with the enthusiasm the second child deserves from you, the first born will welcome it with open arms.
The attitudes our toddlers have toward anything and everything come directly from us, their parents. If we'll model the attitude we want them to have, they'll take it on.
2007-01-26 18:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Amy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be rough...my youngest will be 3 and oldest will be 9, it has been almost 3 yrs and I still feel guilty...so guilty. I dont know how to fix what i feel changed between us when my younger daughter was born. My older daughter and I did everything together, she was my little buddy just like my younger one is now....I feel like i cant make it up to my 8 yr old..now i'm pregnant and due in april and I'm so scared that it will happen again. The fear of loosing touch with your child or that ur pushing them aside not giving enough time all of that is a valid feeling and if you are feeling it they probably are too...but we feel it more because we are their parents and want so badly to please them and make them happy...and when they are not we are not. Just keep telling them you love them thats all yoou can do
2007-01-26 16:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by chellywelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a phase, you will get over it. I was so sad when I became pregnant with my second child and went shopping for my oldest daughter alot. When the second baby came it the feeling slowly drifted. So, don't beat up on yourself. When the second baby come your going to love she/he just as much.
2007-01-26 16:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cried for months after I got pregnant with my second. I couldn't understand just HOW I could love another child as much as I loved my first. I was really nervous and scared but as soon as I gave birth to my 2nd son, I just knew it was okay. My heart great and I loved my oldest son even more than I had before I had my second son. It was amazing! Just know that these feelings are normal, but you will never fall out of love with your first child!
2007-01-26 16:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Angela G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with our second also. To make matters worse, I'm an only child. I know my firstborn is going to go through a lot of turmoil, and I feel awful because I won't even be able to relate to it. I'm scared I'll swing from one extreme to the other--overcoddling to neglect. I just hope I'll be able to provide him enough reassurance when the time comes.
Good luck to both of us. Maybe lots of praying will help.
2007-01-26 16:20:17 · answer #8 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i loved all my kids the same.they all have different personalities but they are your blood.sometimes the fisrt born will feel a little neglected since all the attention is on the newborn.just rem.when you go out to buy diapers or anything for the little one get something for your first born,a book,movie anything to let him know he is still very important to your family and that you love him just the same.good luck.
2007-01-26 16:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never. All children are gifts and the second child is a gift to the first child. they will have there fights but they will have there bonds too.
2007-01-30 22:40:33 · answer #10 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋