Not looking to get yelled at about the Friends with benifits thing, just opinions.
I have been friends with benifits with a guy for almost 9 months now. He talks to me almost everyday and told me a few times that he likes me. We havent become official yet... do you think its still possible to become official after being friends with benifits for so long?
2007-01-26 16:01:54 · 29 answers · asked by Bo B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure it can happen. It might take a little more work on both your parts to generate a romantic feeling between you, it isn't easy to go from f*cking to making love, far easier to go the other way if you know what I mean, but it can be done and I wish you both luck. At least you've got each others preferences in bed already worked out.
2007-01-26 16:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if he wanted to be in a committed relationship with you then he would have done it by now. That is not to say that he doesn't care for you, only that he may not be THAT in to you. Sadly, men seem to be able to separate their emotions from sex a lot better then women do. I have recently been in the same situation, and it took a long time for me to realize that he just didn't care about me THAT much. But, every relationship is different, and the only way you will truly know is to talk to him about it and find out. I would say though, that if you are wanting the relationship to be more and he isn't then it is probably time to end it now and save the friendship....
2007-01-26 16:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by weeewah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because their is a lack of respect there. He IS a man! Don't forget that!! As much as we would like to think that men want to be in relationships (n maybe they do....) the truth is they will come up with any and every excuse NOT to be. Your friends with benifits situation is perfect for him because he never has to officially make up his mind, so you are always there waiting for him. BUT if someone "better" comes along, he can always say "peace" to you. PLUS your little "situation" will always be in the back of his mind, so even if he really did start to like you as someone he could be in a relationship with. He won't get in one with you, because, Like I said; they are always makn up excuses NOT to get in relationships and in his mind he will rationalize that you are NOT his perfect "marraige material" girl because you did not respect yourself enough to not let him use you. (I'm not sayn he used you, just telln you how guys minds work)
2007-01-26 16:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's possible. I was friend's with benefits with someone who I used to go with and we loved each other but it worked. So if two people who loved each other and went together for 2 years can become friends with benefits, people who were the oppisite for 9 months can make it official.
2007-01-26 16:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by DoINg BeTTeR 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats kind of wierd cuz i have friends with benefits after we go out...yea i think u can become official but i mean all hes gonna want to do is have sex and stuff and not take u seriously u have to really make sure u like each other ;)
2007-01-26 16:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anthing is possible. But I think he just means that "he likes you" nothing else. This kind of relationship hardly ever turns into anything fruitful because no matter what he will never put you on a pedestal. He thinks that you would do this kind of thing with just any other guy. He sees at you as just a sexual object...........not as his woman!!!
2007-01-26 16:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. don't do it...You two have used each other for sex. Theres no point in a relationship now. The progression that a relationship usually goes is 1st to Home. YOu started at home and you can't play baseball backwards
2007-01-26 16:08:05 · answer #7 · answered by BlondeboarderBabe 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ideal to start a relationship as friends (regardless when the "benefits" started) and if it takes you to the next level you know if it's good enoguh for a romantic relationship or just for friendship.
2007-01-26 16:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not? Usually in a friend with benefits situation, there is always one person that wants more and therefore gets hurt. But if you both feel the same way, that is wonderful! Good luck!
2007-01-26 16:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by TheAnswerChicks 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of the time with my own friends who had friends with benewfits were basically used. The other person would compliment them, say things about them to continue the relationship, if he really liked you, he probably would have asked you already.
2007-01-26 16:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley[!] 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋