I'm in a relationship for more than 2 years and i notice lately several problems araising! He is very family oriented guy, (i know from the beginning) but it's getting worst now, i feel he kinda ignores me and trying to avoid talking to me/spending time with me! He's always busy! I know he has a lot of responsibilities it's just what bothers me is the way he always put me last! I really hope he would understand me & but show me that he understands! I know we both love each other a lot! It's just i guess boys characters....when they know for sure they are going to end up with this girl then they wouldn't bother to care as much as they did at the beginning! I'm so lost...i really wish he understands my love and my expectations!
2007-01-26 15:59:30 · 12 answers · asked by Girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
How about counseling?
I also liked the book "The Five Love Languages" by Chapman.
2007-01-26 16:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a girl with more guy friends than girlfriends I can probably help you out... not saying I'm the male expert they will always be mysteries. Ok any advice i give yo uI can't be held responsible because I'm not a doctor or anything. I just know some stuff from haning out with guys. Sometimes when a guy stops paying attention to you they're just not interested anymore. To some guys having a girlfriend isn't as much fun as playing the field and being able to do whatever. Have you told him your expectations? can he read your moods? You said "It's just i guess boys characters....when they know for sure they are going to end up with this girl then they wouldn't bother to care as much as they did at the beginning!" I don't think thats it. No offense and I don't want to hurt you but from my experiences with guys when they want to spend their whole lives with someone they don't start ignoring you til after a few years of marriage because if they want you still they're still going to try. when you say family oriented do you mean your family with him or his family? Mama's boys are horrible. And would you want to be with someone who put you last in their life? Sit him down and talk to him about how your feeling and figure out where its going. If you've been together for 2 years maybe you both need to re-evaluate where your relationship is going so that you both will be happy.
2007-01-26 16:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Crash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married yet? Hope not. The last thing you should ever think about in a relationship with any depth at all is if the person you sleep next to is keeping you in thier thoughts or not. Just to be brief......if you have to ask then you allready know the answer. If he cared he would tell you every minute. If he doesent and there are other things then yes you are second on the list or even further down. If you want to be treated like a queen then be one!!
2007-01-26 16:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by s01psb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have an honest conversation with him- tell him what bother you and how you see things being resolved. Is he taking care of someone in his family? (you say he's family oriented) If so, you have to understand that. If he just goes to hand out with family members why doesn't he include you? After all, you have been dating for a while... If things don't change you may want o re-think this relationship and maybe look for someone that will be wiling to spend more time with you.
2007-01-26 16:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Any faults you notice now were there two years ago. I agree with the person who said to let him go and if he comes back he's yours. But if you wind up having to do that more than three times, just move on, period. By about the 5th time he comes crawling back to you, you know that whatever was there two years ago died awhile back. And you either find a new man or enjoy the single life, no strings attached. I also agree with the person who said that if you have to ask, you should know the answer; it's a form of denial.
2007-01-26 16:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by firestar217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl friend, first guys are very stupid creatures when it comes to what the girl thinks or feels, you might have to wake him up by telling him, although maybe it will or wont work, try getting a new boyfriend and that will wake up the old one who is now taking you for granet. Or at least be unavailable when he wants to wee you like he is doing to you.
2007-01-26 16:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by bungyow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,the same thing happened with my husband and me.After our kids,he only cares fore himself,the kids then me.I have turned the tables and show him the same insensitive, careless attitude that he has towards me.He keeps demanding things from me.And i keep telling him he has to earn it not demand it.At the same time he turned 40 and people say he is going trough midlife-crises.Whatever it is,it hurts and he has to realize that.Just put him last,the way he does to you.Let him taste his own medicine.
2007-01-26 16:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with drshorty Take care. Also, open communication is so important--no matter what the relationship is.
2007-01-26 16:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let go of him for a while ..... if he comes back to u, then he is really urs....else, its time for u to take a bold decision.
2007-01-26 16:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by D Singer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not interested in you, and it's time to move on and get on with your own life
2007-01-29 23:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by Silverstinger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋