When I met him he was married, but wasn't happy. Well we seen each other and I didn't hear from him for about 2 months. But I didn't try to contact him either. He comes to where I work sometimes for lunch with the guys he works with. When he finally came back in he contacted me again. Well we talked a few times, (he tells me how beautiful I am and always ask to come see me ), mostly on the net while he was at work (he's a fireman). He aske me about a week ago if he could come see me and I told him he could. Well he came over and stayed for a few hours and went back to work. I havent hard from him since. But the thing is...I think im starting to like him. I mean I know it was just a hook up and thats ok. But in the back of my mind I want to see him more and be with him more. I know hes going through a divorce, and busy. But Is that the only reason I dont or havent heard from him? Like the last time, I heard from him after he seen me at my job? I feel like I'm setting myself up.
2007-01-26 15:58:08 · 6 answers · asked by WhatNow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really dont know tho. He is going through a divorce, and I am just now getting over my last relationship, so I'm not looking for anything serious either. But I don't know why I feel like I am starting to like him. I know that all its just a thing and thats fine. But I don't understand why after we see each other, I dont hear anything from him until he sees me again.
2007-01-26 16:09:17 · update #1
Look, a woman's intuition is usually right on. If you feel that you are setting yourself up for failure and hurt, don't bother with this man. You are right - I am going through a divorce right now and am in no shape to start something serious. Perhaps he is different, but I would be careful because he is probably leery of woman right now. Good luck!
2007-01-26 16:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by TheAnswerChicks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you're answering your own question. This guy is in the midst of divorce, he's a fireman (not a low-stress position), and he's only been occasionally available to you. Meanwhile, you've built a few visits to your work and one hook-up into the possibility of a more serious relationship.
Liking someone who is going through a divorce isn't wrong, but you should realize it is a huge handicap. It's even less probable that his interest will continue if you've already been intimate -- especially if there was no emotional commitment discussed at the time.
So, if you haven't heard from him or seen him at your work (or online), I wouldn't waste more time worrying about the why. You've got better men to start talking to.
2007-01-26 16:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by CarinaPapa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be used than stay away from him. I know you don't want to be in a serious relationship but at the same time you don't want to be used.
You have feelings for this guy regardless. You want more than a one night stand which seems that is all he is willing to give you at this point. You have to decide if one night of sex is worth it. All getting together with him is going to make you want him more.
I say give him some space for awhile while he gets over his divorce so you can finish getting over your last relationship. If at that time you still want to be with him or even just give him a one night stand go for it. To be honest right now he's looking for a quick piece of tail and doesn't care who he gets it from. You may like him but you got to think about your self respect.
2007-01-26 16:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is going through a divorce? or is that what he is telling you? I really would question that. I hope you have good luck, but i would do some checking. I just went through a divorce, and I started talking to my current mate near the end of the divorce.Good Luck.
2007-01-26 16:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a booty call baby! There will be more, when he feels like it. If you don't think you can handle it, get out while you're ahead!
2007-01-26 16:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan's Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it
2007-01-26 16:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by more61077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋