My father is selling our family restaurant. I am the youngest of four, and we have worked together for fifteen years. The new owner wants my husband and I to stay on, and we want to. It is an exciting new venture for the two of us, but we are feeling some resentment from my siblings. Being the youngest by eight years I have always felt somewhat disconnected to my siblings, but the older I get (29) the more I feel involved. Now, everything feels like it did when I was a teenager! None of them are staying on at the restaurant, they are going to try to start something on their own. My husband and I are staying on to maintain our current financial status, and I can't help but feeling guilty for not moving on with them. Everyone has assured me it is all in my head, but I feel absolutely horrible! I am so excited to work with the new owner, but I keep having this nagging guilt tugging at my side. I am so confused as to how to handle it all, and I really need an outside view!!!
2007-01-26 15:31:44 · 4 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everyone has assured you it is all in your head, but you are determined to feel guilty anyway? Tell you what. Let's say you are right. They do resent your choice. OK. They are adults. All of them eight or more years your senior, right? If they haven't learned to say what they mean, then they will have to just live with what they say anyway.
So proceed with your plans and be happily oblivious to their discomfort; real or imagined. They said they didn't mind, so act according.
2007-01-26 15:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You all had to know it was being sold right? If no one stepped up and felt the need to purchase the business- then no one should care about the result after that.
At this point- the family business is desolved (because the kids did not decide to purchase together) so everyone is entitled to make a career choice that best suits them.
2007-01-26 15:40:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who will benefit if you do not take up the offer? Someone else!
What will you then do? Go look for another job! How better off will you then be? My guess - You will regret it the rest of your life.
This business has been in the family for 15 yrs, who better to carry on and think of the goodwill you have associated with all your regular customers. It's all good! Go for it!!...
2007-01-26 15:42:06 · answer #3 · answered by mark2zephyr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your inner voice in your gut...not your head or heart, but your stomach. Your gut instinct will tell you what to do.
2007-01-26 15:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋