my husband and i can't even carry on a conversation without him constantly saying "mama" or "dad" about 10-15 times to get our attention. and when we ask him what, he'll make something up just so our attention is focused on him.
we tell him that mommy and daddy are trying to talk about something and he doesn't need to interrupt, but yet not even a minute later, he'll start doing it again..
he's an only child. is this normal- or is he so spoiled snotty rotten that he actually believes all attention should be on him contantly?
Has anybody else had this problem with their children?
2007-01-26 15:29:42 · 9 answers · asked by KAT 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I would say its normal. All children like to have the parents attention on them at all times. i wouldn't say he is a spoiled snotty rotten... I would say he is just being a child and that is what children do best. My son needs constant attention and if my husband and i are talking about anything he will always interrupt and will continue to do this until we pay attention to him. If it is a conversation that can wait.. then wait.. but if you can just try and include him in the convo.. he will probably get bored and leave you alone.
2007-01-26 15:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have taken care of a 4 yr old boy since birth, and he is an only child also, I find he interrupts constantly. His parents and I have taught him that it is not nice "manners" and he is praised when he says excuse me or just is patient and waits his turn. There is nothing wrong with telling your child to find something to play with on his own until you and his dad are done. I think he is probably just used to all the attention from you both and has a hard time not getting it 24/7. I have done daycare for 20 yrs and have a 21 yr old and 18 yr old. Just an fyi, good luck!
2007-01-27 01:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by JulzNY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not normal for an only child so stop blaming it on that. Blame it on the fact that mommy and daddy stop what they are doing and ALLOW the child to interrupt. A 4 year old doesn't THINK like an adult. What you told him five minutes ago is forgotten and you have to constantly repeat yourself. That is the nature of a 4 year old. However you have to set rules for appropriate and inappropriate behavior and if interrupting a conversation is inappropriate then you must discipline the child. The first time you tell him that he is interrupting and that as soon as you are finished with your convearsation you will pay attention to him. If he butts in again take him to whatever time out spot you have get to his level and explain that he interrupted again and that he has to be in time out. If he butts in again repeat the time out, only a little longer. If after three times he still doesn't get it (hopefully you've invested in a child gate) put a child gate in his bedroom doorway, then place him in his room. Tell him WHY he is in there and that after you've finished your conversation you will come in and listen to what he has to say.
2007-01-26 23:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I love "spoiled snotty rotten" and plan to steal that saying from you! He's normal, honey. The fact that he's an only child means the world does indeed revolve around him according to him.
Our first born used to tell us to "hush" or "be quiet" when my husband and I were trying to speak to one another! It's a phase, he'll give it a rest. He also said, "look at me look at me" 87 times in a row every time I used the phone! Ugh.
Every time our son interrupted us it was an automatic time out.
Your son is 4, he gets 4 minutes in time out where he has to shut his mouth and sit still. It works wonders. And every time he blabs or gets up you reset the timer to 4 minutes.
He is not spoiled snotty rotten, don't worry. He's a normal boy.
2007-01-26 23:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are universal. Your son is facing the struggle that there are adult conversations and activities that don't include him. Telling him to wait until your done is a beginning with a second step of sending him to his room until you are done and not responding to his fuss. Dinner out or whatever is worth the babysitter to demonstrate that he is not included in all interaction. It is important that he learn about the generation gap and develop a capacity for delay.
2007-01-26 23:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 4 and she is the same way. I'm hoping its a phase she will grow out of it. lol! We have her to sit patiently until we are done talking then we start a conversation that she can be included in.
2007-01-26 23:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by ξανξπξ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doing all the right thing but at his age time is just a thing. Keep up the things your doing. Try a little things like:time out chair or tell him when your done talking you LL see to him.Mygardbaby is that way too. she is so spoiled.We try all kind of thing all the time.
2007-01-26 23:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by ladygardenia06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal. Mine acts this way because he is jealous of my attention not being on him and because he likes to be the center of attention.
2007-01-27 00:49:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really needs to be taught not to interrupt...nicely....
and if you have not done this, I hat eto say he is a tad spoiled...
2007-01-26 23:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Smoothie, aka Mr. SmartAss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋