so girls are just saying break up with him and thats not wut i want. I want to know wu ti can do to make him happy.
heres the situation:
i love him to death but he scares me. I always feel like if i mess up in anyway he is going to flip out on me. for example i was fighting with him and ended up comeing home late (im only 16) and my parents flipped out and grounded me. then my boyfriend comes over while they are gone to see me and goes on this rampage yelling at me and grabbing me and pushing and pulling me. I try really hard not to make him mad but i can never seem to be good enough for him.
i want u guys out there to tell me wut you would want ur girl to do in this siuation
2007-01-26 15:20:00 · 12 answers · asked by Alyssa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not a guy, but i want to answer anyway... you see in this guy the guy you want him to be, or the guy he can be... but if you allow yourself to be real for just a minute and pretend you were reading someone Else's question, does this guy you describe sound like he could be someones prince charming? I was asked this question by a good friend, ask yourself this, if you never changed him, if he stayed the way he is forever, would he be the man you could one day marry? I know your young, i was there to, in a relationship with a guy i was comfortable with who was verbally abusive... always believing he loved me enough to someday change, but he didn't eventually i was so sick of him i broke it off, but it took a lot, and i ended up wasting a year and a half of my life... you don't deserve to be yelled at like that... you deserve to have a guy treat you with respect, you need someone who will look at you like your the most beautiful girl in the world, someone you can be proud to introduce to everyone you know, someone who will be afraid to loose you because he is head over heels in love with you... I am finally married to my best friend and prince charming, i kissed allot of toads to get here, but i finally realized i cannot change people nor can anyone really change me... love yourself before you allow someone to love you
2007-01-26 15:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Vanillabean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
run don't walk to your guidance councellor and tell her what has happened. She can see he gets some help with his anger issues In the mean time you need to get some self-respect
It is NOT your problem to ' not make him mad' and no one should put up with being abused - which is what yelling, pushing and pulling is. The next step will be him hitting you - so stop it before that happens. Violence only gets worse as long as you allow it to occur.
you would be better off alone then with this guy the way he is.
Ann Landers has a wonderful book on teens that you would benefit from
2007-01-26 15:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by earnest b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl you are 16! His behavior is abusive and demoralizing. Wake up don't become another victim of domestic violence. If he is like this you may never be able to make him happy. And chance are thing will only get worse. I was there when I was 16. the yelling the putting me down pushing. I tried to make it work and to make him happy too. Did everything he wanted me to and I was having sex with him because"I loved him" because I thought I loved him It never got better it got worse. He began to force himself on me every-time something went wrong. He physically abused me, mentally abused me and sexually abused me. I put up with it for over a year. The longer I tried to fix things the harder it became to get out. The problem probably isn't you, most definitely not you. it lies within him. Do your self a favor. Evaluate you situation. Ask yourself if this how you want to live out the best years of your life? Relationships work on 2 way streets not 1 way. He should be trying to make you happy as much as you are try to make him.
2007-01-26 15:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by twins040401 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me if you have a boyfriend then you shouldn't even think about saying yes to another guy, just tell them that you have a boyfriend and that you don't want to be a cheater unless you do then that makes you a ho
2016-05-24 04:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might have a chemical imbalance. Ask if he would like to seek counseling. Offer to go with him. If you intend to spend your life with him you need to confront this here and now. He could need medication. On the other hand, he could be a spoiled brat that never got punished for acting like that as a child. I'd start with the counseling first.
2007-01-26 15:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by justcallmeriss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to make him happy? He should be happy to be dating you. Plus he shouldn't scare you. RED FLAG. Your only 16 enjoy your friends and happy times not fighting with your boyfriend. Is this your first boyfriend? Hope your situation changes for the better. RESPECT
2007-01-26 15:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by binja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god.
get out of that relationship right now.
i know you love him, but he is treating you like crap. and i'm sure you're worth more than crap. you shouldn't be wracking your brains trying to figure out how to not make him fly off the handle. i was with a guy like this for a year, and now that it's been over for awhile, i see how sick the relationship was, and how psychotic he is.
please, leave him now. and tell your parents what's going on, so they can be on your side if he ever comes by your house.
2007-01-26 15:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by boite 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh that's terrible. YOU can't make him happy. you shouldnt have to try to make him happy. you are TOO good for him. he is an unhappy person with his own serious problems. even if you were perfect every second he wouldn't be happy, or if he had another girl he would do the same things to her. you should find yourself a new guy who treats you nicely. find a guy who makes YOU happy. seriously, he is not worth it.
2007-01-26 15:26:58 · answer #8 · answered by bellatrix27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is only a matter of time before he starts hitting you and beating you. Move on, theres much better men in this world.Good Luck!
2007-01-26 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by 86Mets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like he doesnt truly like u, but if u want to make him happy have sex with him, give him a bl*w job u know.. alothough u gotta be carefull cuz be the sounds of it he's the kinda person who just wants sex and doesnt truley like u.
2007-01-26 15:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by tyler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋