My ex bf is a geek who doesnt even have any female friends, yet he doesnt want me?

Question

He's kinda of geeky, not super duper smart geeky since he's on academic probation this last semester of college. Very shy and immature. We broke up 3 times before and I chased him back. So i think he lost respect for me. I know, big mistake of mine, that's why i'm not chasing him back ever again. And now when people tease him about our relationship he'd say"yeah she's psycho" or how i was crazy. I guess he's doing that to make him look good since he cant get people to think he's cool anywhere else. He broke up with me b/c he doesnt want a relationship right now. I feel like he hasnt grown up yet since all he does all day is play video games with his buddies. And also i was a bit clingy and high maintenance. I know i should totally forget about him, but i dont really want to. we are each other's first love. Do u think he'll come back someday once he matures a little like after he graduates(by then he wont have his buddies to keep him occupied)since i'm sure he's not gonna date others

Answer 1

maybe you need to mature and not be clingy and needy and he'll see a different side hes never seen b4 :]

Answer 2

Well with your comments about how geeky and immature he is, maybe he kept trying to end it because you were too critical of him? Guys always play video games . . if they could do that for a job (some do) than they would be sooo much happier. It's just the way they are! He's probably not going to change that aspect, though his work might take up some of his time. It might be his way of bonding with buddies and relaxing doing something he knows he's good at.
Before you try this again with him, rethink your additude about him, and make sure that you're not just going back because you're desperate. Sometimes we keep beating the dead horse because we don't want to move on and try new things.

Answer 3

Maybe he really does think your crazy and psycho. Your behaviour may warrant that opinion. You don't seem to actually like him, since you think that his is nerdy and a loser. In fact, you don't think that he could find another girlfriend. If he's not good enough for other girls, why should he be good enough for you? Surely you could find another boyfriend, so why waste your time on him? Just because he was your first boyfriend doesn't mean that you have to spend your life chasing him. I have fond (and not-so-fond) memories of my first car, but I'm glad that I'm not still driving it. Your issue isn't your nerdy and mean boyfriend, it's your self esteem. Perhaps your true motive for staying in this relationship is because you don't think another boy would like to be with you. This is simply not true. I recommend watching Wayne's World and focusing on Wayne's ex-girlfriend. If you can relate to her (and I'm sure that you can) then what you need to do is move on, find someone else that you actually like, and stop demeaning yourself to be with someone who obviously doesn't value you. Good luck!

Answer 4

You shot yourself in the foot on this one. He's gone.

PLEASE learn from the mistakes you made; don't be hard on yourself - believe it or not, relationship skills are learned. You'll know better next time.

Try to focus your time and attention on things that make you happy. Living well is the best revenge.

Answer 5

OMG I definitely went through the same thing. You sure we weren't dating the same guy lol. Even the description is the same. Anyway the exact same thing happened to me. Forget about him. You will save your reputation and not regret it later on. He is immature. The guy I dated later went on to do the same thing to some other girls.

P.S. Guys love to say how girls are pyscho especially to friends and other women!

Answer 6

havent u had this quote before ? "a fool at 18 is a fool forever" if he is in college and keep acting like that,thats the way he is going to act forever unless God's divine intervention fall on me and mightily too

Answer 7

You shouldn't have labeled him. That helps to keep him away. Guys go over phases where they are into different peopel over and over again. Maby you best start finding someone else.
p.s. DON"T BE CLINGY

Answer 8

If he's as bad as you say - why are you still chasing him?

Three break ups, granted that's growing pains, but me thinks its time to put this one to rest. Move on. If there's something there - time will tell, but don't waste time waiting around.....

Answer 9

He is at a tough stage in life. He will graduate and now has to find work. He needs to relocate and settle in, maybe when he is past all that he will call, but leave it to him.

Answer 10

i understand you, but just to leat you know he only doesn`t want you back because he doesn`t want go through breakups over and over again. when he talks about you like that, its obvious he cares about you. if he didn`t, he wouldn`t say stuff like that. HE`S TRYING TO MAKE YOU JEALOUS.