I tried the whole spanking thing but it's not working my kids are wild and they're in the terrible two stage and i don't want to spank them I feel really crappy when i do so what are some suggestions for 2 year olds?
2007-01-26 15:18:27 · 23 answers · asked by Ray_Ray 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
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Be stern and using a low voice. Let them know you mean business. This will be tiresome but it does work. Put them in a boring chair in a boring room where they can't see you or the other members of the household and don't talk to much. At this age they wont understand..keep it simple.."you hit your brother. that is not nice, now you will have timeout"
one minute for each year they are old. two mins for 2-year olds.
Good luck. I find this helpful..spanking just leads to more hitting from them too, violence is not the answer...although it's what feels right at the moment! LOL
You will feel guilty, because it is wrong. There must be a way to teach children without harming them physically or mentally.
Good luck with this!
Hope I've helped a little!
2007-01-26 15:24:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, separate them as much as possible. Terrible 2s are terrible, and more so if you have two kids. They are going through a normal stage that is magnified for you as you have two. The behavior then become "contagious." Have hubby take one for a walk, read books in different areas of the house, games too.
A little spank here and there wont hurt either but try a few "time aways" (time outs.) but keep it really short, shout be no more than a few minutes as they are so young and not able to cognitivley process the situation as well as someone older.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-01-26 23:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is a disaster and will never yeild results. 2 year olds jst dont know how to control their impulses.Its hard but when they hit a younger child and u hit them , its more likely to make them feel its ok to hit or grab or some such violent reaction is ok.Time out may owrk but maybe for a child slightly older than 2,For a 2 year old, figure out some "basic pleasures" that he holds draerst....reading with moomy, watching cartoons, eating a favourite biscuit .....and then promise them u will keep them away from these if they dont behave....and follow through to the bitter end no matter what it takes from you energy wise.But only after you have managed to convey the message that mommys really really upset about the misbehviour in qusetion.
2007-01-27 10:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by aparna l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 38 year old woman and I have 8, yes 8 children. Time out can work, but unless you have time to stand there and watch them...I would recommend removing their favorite toy, or turning off the tv for a period of time. A spanking lasts minutes...while losing their beloved favorite toy is agonizing. It is best not to raise your voice, when you yell they learn to yell, when you spank they learn to hit. My oldest is 22 and my youngest is 7months. I have made plenty of mistakes....a lot to be honest. But I really do find that removing privilege (tv), or taking their toys is the best remedy for unruly children. Also be patient with yourself....parenting is never mastered....you learn something new almost daily along the journey. Lead by example...don't argue or fight in front of the kids. Good luck...p.s. one day you will look back on the terrible twos, realize they were not so terrible, you long for the day that you little one would crawl on your lap,and fall asleep in your arms, you will miss kissing boo boos. They grow up faster then you realize.
2007-01-27 01:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by christina s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two is entirely too young to even think about spanking. The child will not understand. I recommend redirecting their behavior as much as possible and use simple solutions - for example throw toy - toy taken away, Hit friend - 2 minute time out, when they have a fit just let them - ignore it - or what I like to do is just tell them that I want to see a bigger fit - this I got from love and logic - they have a great book on toddler discipline
2007-01-27 01:47:02 · answer #5 · answered by Judith B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
combo of everything everyone esle said. Heres what you do...
first spanking is only for really bad things (like when the break things or spit or swear).
otherwise get a time out chair and put them in two different rooms. Let them sit for up 10 mins or so. Kids are usually bad (or worse) when they have someone to be bad with. I might be hard at first, they'll cry and/be mad at you, say they don't love you or say your mean but trust me they will get over it. STAND YOUR GROUND, this is the most important thing. Let them know who's boss.
When they are calm, take them out the time out and tell them why they had time out. They as extra punishment take away a privileged so they understand your not playing around.
Good luck and remember YOUR THE BOSS!
2007-01-26 23:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by infiniteson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A two years old child dosent understand much so there is no need to spank the child.Only thing you can do is tell the child with firm words what to do what not to do.If you continue the practice of spanking children they will become stuburn.
2007-01-26 23:55:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never argue with them. Stay calm. Be consistent. If you say you will do something (even if you wish later you had not made the threat) follow through. For example, if you tell your 2 year old to pick up a toy - or you will toss it out. And, they don't pick it up - you have to toss the thing. It is more important at this stage that they know you mean business vs. keeping a toy (besides, you can retrieve it later :-)).
2007-01-27 00:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by Wattleseed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never spank in anger. A single purposeful swat helps if your child is in danger like playing in the street or playing with electrical outlets. Give no warnings, only interventions like a timeout chair or sent to their room. Try to avoid doing it for time because kids can learn to do time. The purpose of the discipline is not to punish or inflict pain; it is meant to aid in their development. It rests in their hands. When you learn not to use your toys correctly, I won't send you to your room. You can have your toy back when you can tell me or show me that you have learned how to use it properly.
2007-01-26 23:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prevention and distraction.
If you prevent the bad behaviour, then destract then you don't need the punishment and your child will still learn.
When they start to reach for the forbidden object say whatever you want "no" or some people don't like no so they will say "Play with your toys not the tv" and then give something a toy instead of the tv
If they try to hit or bite say "We don't bite we ________ when we are upset" or "Hug mommy hugging is so nice"
2007-01-26 23:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋