i am 27 and I feel as if I am the parent of my mom. I have tried for many years to be patient and understand that she has a disease called addiction. But I feel as if I must restrain her from her grandkids. I live almost ten hours away from my mom. She lives with grandma. I have actually heard her tell my 68 year old grandma that she wished she would die and she hated her. When I heard my mother say those things to my gma.It broke me. Now! I am going down there. The advice i need i hope is positve.Because my intentions are not. I want my mother away from my grandmother. I am to the point where i want her a--.No matter the consequences. I'll be there about 8pm Saturday. She better hope by the grace of GOD,he shows her mercy.Because i'm not. My grandmother has me only to watch over her. Im not about to let my grandmother deal with a 48 yearold crackhead that does not care about anything but her drugdealer and her high... Please somebody help. Please!!!! give me some positve insight.
2007-01-26 15:11:18 · 8 answers · asked by jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This sounds like an extremely serious, important and significant matter. I do believe you need to quickly seek the advice of learned professionals who are trained and equipped to deal with these family issues. Realize also that your mother although she may be caught in the devil's grasp at the moment is still your mother and deserve every respect you can give her. The flip side of the situation is that she is at an absolute low and knows that, but is unable to help herself. My recommendation to you is to immediately contact your local crisis centre and request for some intervention assistance!!! Far too often, the outcome of situations such as yours rings a familiar cry, if not dealt with in a proper manner when things are really out of hand, the situation ends with someone getting hurt and yes, the children if there are any involved are the ones who suffers the most. Let's not forget them too. I hope this response reaches you before you head out. Please, give your local crisis line a call for this initial help. Good luck!!
2007-01-26 15:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by Leona 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother definitely needs help, and your grandmother does NOT need to have to deal with her. Maybe you could get your mother into a halfway house or something. Don't give her an option. Just make it plain to her that she has to go somewhere for help, because she has to leave your grandmother's house. I wish I could help you more. It won't be easy. God bless you.
2007-01-26 15:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by country nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to set boundaries. The only way you can actually help your mother is to set rigid boundaries. If she won't get help - then she can't stay - she has to get out. If you give in to her - or your grandmother gives in to her -you are not helping her - you are enabling her to continue with her habit. That isn't fair to your family or to her. Don't be cruel - but be consistent, fair, and set clear boundaries. Let her know that you will be there if and when she is ready to make changes. But until then, she has to get out of your life.
2007-01-26 15:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are going there for your Grandma is positive enough! You could be a real dork and let her stay there with no one to help her. Remember, though, that you won't help her by doing something stupid. Keep your cool, choose your fight, fight it your way, then leave, taking your grandma with you if need be. Good luck.
2007-01-26 15:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray for her GOD is the ONLY thing stronger than a drug addiction. Let her know you are going to start praying for her. Trust me, i KNOW from personal experience that god can break ANY addiction,in his timing. YOU be the bigger person here and dont scoop down to her level. also u may want to try to find out why she turns to the drugs. good luck!
2007-01-26 15:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by mommylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whis i could give you something positive but it sounds to me that you, your kids and your grandma would be much better without her in your life. At her age she is not about to change.
2007-01-26 15:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are damaging your kids. You need to move away and not visit. I'm not kidding, it's doing WAY more harm than good.
2007-01-26 15:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO WHOOP THAT A**
I WOULD!
2007-01-26 15:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋