i am not in a very happy relationship, but i would like a another child so that may son will have a brother or sister. I know if i left my partner i could have another child eventually with someone else, But then there would be a hugh age gap, which i didn't really want.( my son is 3.5 now) I do know that there is nothing wrong with only children.
2007-01-26 15:07:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I know EXACTLY what you mean. I've always believed that siblings are very important for a child to have.
And even if you see a break-up in your future, that is all the more reason you would want your child to have that brother or sister there... so that your children will always be there for one another.
Also, they will be full-blooded siblings which is always a plus. If you go on and remarry to have more children, your first child may begin to feel left out of this new family structure. At least with a sibling who shares the same parents, he will never doubt where he came from or where he belongs.
So I say yes, have another child. Do it for the child you have now because it's going to be a stressful time for him when the break-up happens, and this way he will have a constant someone to lean upon. Just my opinion - and one that may not be too terribly popular with the masses - but there you have it. I hope that helps. Good luck.
2007-01-26 15:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have another child when you're in a happy, healthy relationship with someone else. Also make sure that your partner is also ready to have a child when you are. Age gaps aren't all bad. I'm 20, and my sister is 26. We get along great.
2007-01-26 15:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by ChocolateCoveredStrawberries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't have another child yet. Get yourself out of your unhappy relationship, or do what you can to improve your relationship. It would be nice to give your son a brother or sister, but don't rush into it. And you are right, there is nothing wrong with being or having an only child, but I can imagine it must get lonely sometimes (when they're older).
2007-01-26 15:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by sandrajeanjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are in an unhappy relationship, another child may stress that out even further. Age gaps don't really matter all that much. You could always adopt if you don't find another person to have a child with soon enough.
2007-01-26 15:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a unhappy relationship, you should do what it take to get out of the relationship, and move on with your live. There are good Men out there, find one for yourself, your son, and the new child you want to have. Have another child with a Man who will be a good Dad and husband to all of you, you deserve it. Do not settle for second best! God Bless and Best Wishes!
2007-01-26 15:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reason to have a child with someone whom you are not happy with is a bad idea. what is your concern regarding the age gap. My boys are 6 years apart. Both have their own set of friends and also play with each other. The older one protects, role models and helps his younger brother. That is a huge bonus especially at school etc - he has someone to "watch over him", walk him to the store etc.
Don't get me wrong, they fight too - but there are advantages to the age gap. Plus I am older, wiser and more patient than if they were the same age.
2007-01-26 15:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i know how you feel. I was in a relationship that i wasnt happy with and i wanted another child but i thought of what i would do to the child. The child would have to go back and forth from one parent to another and this hurts a child i have a daughter that this is happening with so i know. Also know in your heart that you can be a single mother and when the time is right you will find mr. right. You will know when its time to have another child. I just got married in July to my child hood sweetheart and i wanted to have his child asap. So you will know trust your judgment!!!
2007-01-26 15:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a huge age gap is not as bad a problem as people think. when i was born, my sister was eight and my brother was twelve. i don't know how they felt about the age difference, but i thought it was great. i learned a lot from them when my mom forced them to take me to the mall, playground, or anywhere else they went. having them around to look out for me took a lot of burden of my mom as a single parent too.
besides the age gap, having another child is a serious decision that only you can make.
2007-01-26 15:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by morequestions 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to have another child if you are in a unhappy relationship. I would rather wait and let their be an age difference then have another child with the father. it might just put strain on yourself and your son.
2007-01-26 15:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is any doubt your relationship might end with the strain of another baby, then don't. Keep it for the future wiht another partner who deserves you. on your own with one baby will only be half the battle on your own with two will be.
2007-01-26 15:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by BeeMay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋