Bounderies make everyone mad at you because no one wanted things to change.. they were happy with you mistreated.. it was a comfort zone... They don't respect you... they see you as the person that is now hurting them and it 'came from no where'.(for me it was building for years and years)... Anyone else find that setting bounderies doesn't get you respect... it gets people thinking you are a witch? (they follow your rules so that you don't 'act up and hurt them' again)?
2007-01-26 15:01:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's called "respect". They aren't hurt as you put it, they are HUMBLED and embarassed, and the person they used to think was meek, had humbled them.
Must've been some good humble pie you whipped up, because they sure got served!
2007-01-26 15:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what other people think. It is what you think and how you feel that matters. If someone was mistreating you and you finally stood up for yourself then GOOD FOR YOU!! They will either get over it or move on. If they don't respect you then they really don't get it at all and were probably a big part of the problem. So they think your a witch...oh well. It will only last until the next brouhaha! Good luck.
2007-01-26 23:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you would have asked me this 20 years ago I would have said that people will respect them, today however, not so much. I think people are very invasive now and there really isn't any respect for peoples needs in this area. I think it also has something to do with geography. My home town is very small and sheltered and I think that the people there would be receptive to boundaries, more so than highly populated areas.
2007-01-26 23:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Hennings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I'm perfectly glad and happy I learned to set boundaries. If a person old or new friend doesn't like the way I am tough titties on them they either like it and stay or dislike it and get the hell out. I don't worry about it any more and those boundaries I choose now to call them ASSERTIVENESS.
2007-01-26 23:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you do it. If you go about setting up a display of an angry and hurt attitude, first you are not setting boundries you are sharing too much and secondly, you're just pissing everyone off.
2007-01-26 23:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to set boundries other wise everyone would treat you like **** and walk all over you. many people dont have respect for others no matter the boundries.
2007-01-26 23:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyessly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally agree to the point that i wonder if it wasn't just esier to be a door mat.
2007-01-26 23:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try this one... GO with the Flow!!
2007-01-26 23:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Yahoo Answer Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋