My mother in law never disciplines my niece (her daughter's daughter) and disciplines my boys when ever she thinks is necessary. Don't get me wrong my kids are good but sometimes get to rowdy and need to be told to stop. My niece is totally spoiled, hurts my kids and is never told to stop. She is 10 and has selective mutism(only talks to grandma and mom)and my boys are 3 and 6. My mother in law charges me to watch my 3 year old 3 times a week and complains all the time about it but she offered to do it for free. She does not charge my sister in law and she watches her daughter more often even over night since my sister in law works until 2 am. There is to many thing to list that she does to treat this child like she is better including buying her things that my niece shows off in front of my sons by waving them in the air. I do feel sorry for her but they treat her so different than my kids. Why does she treat them so different and why does she charge us and doesn't charge her daughter
2007-01-26 14:53:50 · 7 answers · asked by Married and loving it!!!! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother in law obviously has her favorites, and they do not include you, or your children. I would stop having her babysit altogether. And I would also bring th visits to a minimum as well....with Grandma AND with the sister in law and her bratty daughter. It sounds like the ten year old girl is acting like a brat, and no one corrects her. You want your children around such a bad influence? Your kids may be young, but I bet a million bucks they can sense the favoratism. My grandparents had favorites when I was child too- it wasnt me either. I grew up hating my cousins, and not really liking my grandparents because of it!
2007-01-26 15:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by Penny P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r not going to like what I have to say but I'm on ur kids end of the spectrum and 51 yrs. old now. Ur kids r not going to resent their grandmother as much as they r going to resent u and ur husband. U two have no back bone and r considered marshmallows around his mother.
Solution #1 Find another sitter for ur boys or a daycare and pay them instead of ur mother-in-law even if it's higher than what u pay her now. Don't u think ur kids r worth being treated better and fairly like human beings ought to be treated?
Solution #2 If hubby wants to go see his mother have him go alone or u can all go when ur sister-in-law isn't there and there is no niece to share the attention ur boys may need.
Solution #3 When grandma finally asks why the cold shoulder all of a sudden be frank and stern but not disrespectful. Let her know u feel she is displaying favoritism and u don't want ur boys to feel the hurt and pain she is causing them and u any longer.
If ur husband argues with u tell him to ask the boys how they feel about visiting grandma. If the boys r ok with it then u leave it alone until one or the other tells u different they will pick up on the abuse sooner than u think. But at least make ur husband aware of what u r talking about so that u don't seem like an over jealous daughter-in-law and selfish. Ask him to observe her behavior with his kids and if he thinks its ok then leave it alone again until the boys complain to him not that u sent them but it came from them.
I hated my grandfather for many years for this reasion and rebelled against my parents as a teenager because I found them never to protect me or support me from those that said they love me and hurt me most. Stand up for ur kids they can't fight this one on their own. They need u and ur husband to see the abuse and then uhe needs to address his mother first without ur input or u'll lose no questions about it. Good luck.
2007-01-26 23:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mother in law feels guilty that her daughter has a daughter with a disability and tries to overcompensate.
As a mother I seem to help one child more than the other because it seems like that one needs more help, not because I love one more than the other.
2007-01-27 04:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother to find out why she does this. Find another sitter and if she steps in to discipline your kids, you step in and put a stop to it right then and now.
2007-01-27 00:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to admit it but, even with your own kids you have a favorite,sorry the truth hurts!
2007-01-26 23:17:46 · answer #5 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
caus shes a B
2007-01-27 00:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by criss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST MEAN
2007-01-26 23:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by LIBERIAN MAN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋