you are no longer together but have kids together,and love him big time, have done the usual ''we shouldnt do this, but''! Made a BIG mistake splitting up,any suggestions? He has a girlfriend.
2007-01-26 14:47:44 · 10 answers · asked by 1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
18 year relationship, girlfriend was part of the reason for split,tends to be that way when you find out your husband is playin away,but cant help your feelings! We are still best of mates.
2007-01-26 15:37:46 · update #1
Don't be stupid and layer on the lip gloss and war paint. Be a lady and conduct yourself accordingly. If he loves you he'll be back, but you don't want to do anything to embarrass yourself or your children. Or that you will regret the next day. If he finds happiness with someone else you must let go and move on. Be strong, I know it's hard, but you want to be able to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning. Good luck.
2007-01-26 14:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Examine the situatiion thoroughly because it will harm the kids if their parents are back together then split up again.
think whether you love him more now you know he is unavailable, think about whether you need someone to fill a void in your life and you feel comfortable with your ex and have therefore started thinking that he is the love of your life.
It seems as if he is coming ONLY to talk about family stuff. It may be that he is planning to settle down with his girlfriend and he wants to make sure that there is an agreement in place for when he can see his children.
Be careful. Ask him whether he will consider getting back with you, not later (when he gets sick of his new gf), but now - this will tell you clearly where you stand. Be prepared for bad news just in case he says no. If he does say no don't take this out on the relationship between him and his children. -
good luck.
2007-01-26 15:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still love the father of my kids, He dumped me and I was heartbroken, that was 5 yrs ago and I haven't had a serious relationship since in the hope he'll want me back but I know I would say no out of sheer principle, cutting my nose off to spite my face type of thing.
He has a new family now and I know it'll never happen but he does support and come round to see the kids.
It's just one of those things that life throws at us, we can only do the best by our children.
I really don't know how you should react to this situation, if he doesn't have any kids with his G/F then I'd say go for it but be wary.
2007-01-26 14:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows how you feel and his male ego secretly enjoys having 2 women after him. Always look good when he comes but let him think you've moved on. If he is doubtful in any way that you shouldn't have split this should bring him to a decision. If it doesn't work, really sorry but you have to accept you are not what he wants. Difficult as it will be you must start going out and building a new life. Your children won't be young and dependent on you forever and you have to think of yourself too.
2007-01-26 21:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to answer your question with another question, but. why would it matter what he talks about if you two aren't together. Maybe he could take the kids to the park or somewhere other than where you are.
2007-01-26 14:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go home to is girlfriend. He made the mistake and now he'll pay for it.
2007-01-26 14:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have kids with him, the new one dosnt.
you love him?
express this to him.
I hope your not an immature bit'ch thats had kids to keep a niggr,and thats it, and your just jealous NOW, he's got a new girl?
But dont prove this to me (a stranger) here,
Prove it to HIM, in real life, now!
2007-01-26 14:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by ben b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from him, this guy has cheated on you once, the chances are, he may do it again, do you want to risk losing him again? keep it as it is and stay friends with him.
2007-01-26 22:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Unhinged.... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has a girlfriend...STAY away. Simple as that...dont intervere with his new relationship...you dont own him.
2007-01-26 14:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by bluestar_dreamsx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might spoil a beautiful friendship.
i'm pretty sure i would.
2007-01-26 15:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋