i love him to death but he scares me. I always feel like if i mess up in anyway he is going to flip out on me. for example i was fighting with him and ended up comeing home late (im only 16) and my parents flipped out and grounded me. then my boyfriend comes over while they are gone to see me and goes on this rampage yelling at me and grabbing me and pushing and pulling me. I try really hard not to make him mad but i can never seem to be good enough for him. ne1 have ne suggestions for keeping him happy? did you guys go through this in a tough time in a relationship? plz help i really dont know wut to do. I love him more then anythign but it hurts. I dont know if i can take lieing to my friends about bruises anymore i dont wanna break up with him plz help me
2007-01-26 14:47:08 · 9 answers · asked by Alyssa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like you are not only in a physically abusive relationship but an emotionally abusive relationship. you have to realize that nothing you do will ever make him happy if he seeks to completely control you as he is doing. I would leave him alone and suggest that he gets help. breaking up with someone is a very hard thing to do, especially if you love him. but what you define as love is obviously different than what he considers love. because you aren't on the same page as he, you both should seperate for the best. I would tell my parents as well, or someone you trust. They also may be able to help you. and when you do suggest therapy or possibly breaking up, have someone there with you, just in case anything goes down. this may be very hard for you I know, but just remember: you knew yourself before you knew him, and be loyal to the person you knew first. good luck
2007-01-26 15:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by dabelizeanmami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it that your in abusive relationship, get out as fast as possible before he does some serious damage. Tell your parents or someone to help you through this cause it sounds like hes already mentally scared you so you try to make him happy.
2007-01-26 14:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by msX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had a bf like that 1s and i knew him my whole life he was sweeta nd he was justso perfect welli guess not cause when we desided to go out he brused me so bad (im onlt 14) and he called me names i time he grabbed me by the trout cause i looked at another guy but anyways we are not together right now im telling you we thought we were i love but once we broke up i found some1 else and i stopped talkin to the obuser 4 a lil bit and then we started talkin againa nd we talk about wat he does wrong so im other words hes not good enough 4 you dump him cause trust me my aunt made the mistake of not and shes still stuck with him and her life sux dont let that hapen to you!dump him hes not worth it girl ! good luck!dont let him get inside your head! eva need anyting give me a shout pce
2007-01-26 15:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by juggalette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER tolerate anyone who is abusive to you... Get out and find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated. you are only 16, you are young... You have your whole life ahead of you.. Don't waste anymore time with this guy.
2007-01-26 14:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at what point are you going to realize that this guy is bad news? it's not about keeping him happy, it's about you being in a safe, healthy relationship where some guy isn't beating the **** out of you. don't let him beat you down and take away your power.
2007-01-26 15:01:10 · answer #5 · answered by phtbtmgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best solution is to leave him because he's not supposed to be bruising you. I understand that you love him to pieces, but if he loved you, he wouldn't be hurting you. He might even need some counseling before it gets worse.
2007-01-26 14:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this seems like to me that he is just having a hard time with his life and doesn't know were to take it out on but if you ask me than when you break up with him then have somebody their so he woun't hurt you ever again and keep your distances from him
2007-01-26 14:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Savannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never stay in a relationship where abusive is happening...my god,who does he think he is?..god!!!...get out of there,he has no right to treat u like trash he can knock around!!!...u deserve better,get away from him......
2007-01-26 14:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by sandra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just break up wit him u deserve a nice guy
know 1 dose that **** to his girlfriend
2007-01-26 14:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by ~pay~pay~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋