I love him, but he loves her??

Question

I really just don't know what to do anymore... Ive met a lot of new people in highschool, including a particular person who I like waayyy more than i should. He's my best friend, and I cant help but like him as more than that... and Im almost positive he likes me in the same way. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend that im sort of friends with and they really do like each other they're perfect together... but i dont know what to do. I like him so much its hard for even me to believe. And I cant believe how much I trust him after only a few months. I can honestly tel him anything, and he trusts me that much too and I can always be myself around him, and I know its horrible of me to want to take him away from my friend, but I cant help it I want to talk to him about it, but Im so afraid to lose him, or to cause him to lose her or to lose both of them. Im so confused cause I know I shouldnt go after him, but thats so much easier said than done... any advice pleaz

Answer 1

Ok listen from someone whose had expierance with this. I told a guy with a girlfriend I liked him and it destroyed our friendship and my chances with him. Its not that he didnt like me, but it complicated everything. I am not and never was friends with his girlfriend, but I immediately felt like a homewrecker. I wish i would have waited until they werent together anymore. Now I wander "what if i waited' maybe we'd be together now. Now I have him as nothing because i was selfish.

Answer 2

If u go so far as to pursue ur friend's boyfriend, that says a lot about ur character and the person u r. That SHOULD make u feel bad & low. How can u say that u're sure he likes u but he loves his girlfriend. Neither u nor him know what love is. If he trully loves his girlfriend, there's no way that he could like u as more than a friend. And if u say that his girlfriend is ur friends, u should be able to set aside ur feelings for him. It's not up to, a lustful young girl, to break up ur two friends' relationship. Find out first what friendship and love is. Once u do this, u will realize that what u feel for him is nothing more that the need for a close male friend. Ur friendship with him should be enough. Think about it!!

Answer 3

Since he's got a girlfriend you need to move on and forget about him so you don't ruin your friendship with your friend. It would be hard but you can do it. Just focus on other things and stay away from him for awhile and maybe your feelings will go away and you'll see that maybe you though of him as a friend all along. As my advice I won't try to make a move on him because it's possible that it will cause more trouble then your ready to handle.

Answer 4

Don't get in the middle of his relationship with another girl you consider to be a friend. Like you said, you could end up losing both of them as friends.

If it's hard for you to control your emotions, then maybe you should spend less time with them. Let them figure out what they want and give them a chance to have a relationship. You said they are perfect together, so don't ruin it.

Answer 5

I think you should just play along as the good friend for a bit longer.Who knows...maybe there relationship could end tommorrow or sometime in the next week.If it does end anytime soon than tell him how you feel and how long you've felt it for.If it doesn't end then i think that you should still say something.But tell him that you're not trying to get him to break up with his girlfriend or trying to cause trouble....you just have been wanting to tell him the truth for sometime.
He'll either do something about it....or he won't...and will just want to remain friends.
Good Luck. ash

Answer 6

Look, I'm not gonna lie to you. It is scary as hell to find out if you're best friend feels the same way about you. And although he's dating someone who you think is perfect for him, he may not agree. Who knows, he may share mutual feelings towards you, but he's too scared to tell you. I'll tell you one thing though; you'll never know unless you tell him. You have nothing to lose; even your friendship. Because, if he was your best friend, he'd consider and understand your feelings. Just tell him when you're ready. But, who knows, you may find someone else who's swept you off your feet. Just be patient. Life's full of surprises.

Answer 7

If you've waited for awhile, I'd say it's time for you to move on. It's great that you're really good friends, but it sounds like he already cares alot for the one he's with, which could explain why he only has eyes for her. And someone who's taken is unavailiable in my opinion. I'm sure there are lots of other single guys out there who would love to be with you.

Answer 8

how i really know what u feel!!!i ever feel in love with a boy who has a gf,u have to be honest to urself,is it complicated urself or no?if yes i think u should to forget him,and if u enjoy it and feel so confident want to talk about ur feeling without afraid about all risk that u'll get WHY NOT ,there's so many chances in this world but u just can take one

Answer 9

i hate to say this, but it's about time you get him to choose. why are you afraid of "losing" him?. if he goes, you never had him. i know how you feel cuz i had a similar situation. I really wanted him (and I don't want many things in life hehe) but there are things you just have to "make yours" or let go. don't get obssesed or depressed. just be strong. you've gone this far, you can walk the last inches.

Answer 10

Hey how u doing i hope your good i think u should let them be happy they love each other in my opinion i think you like him but your confusing friendship with love that always happens :) but if u really liked him u would like to see him happy right??? let then be find someone there plenty of guys!!! i know its hard but i know god will bring u a good guy in your life!