Wassup guys, been with this girl for 8 years, usually me and her see each other every night, I mean we have our clique of friends but mostly I just see her, every night. We're not married and don't live together, by the way. Anyway, everytime she meets someone new, like a new friend thats a girl, she tries to get mad at me and then turn something against me to "take a break" while she goes and hangs out with them? I just don't understand it. Not that I am controlling but why can't she outright tell me she wants to go out with a new friend she met? But of course if I met with someone new she wouldn't like it, blah blah.
This happens everytime she meets a new friend. She tries to pick a fight or say we "need a break" and then come to find out she made plans with this person. Why does she act like this?
2007-01-26 14:09:30 · 6 answers · asked by WC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She will say, "well, she asked me if I wanted to hang out with her, and I know me and you didn't make plans." That is what she'll say. Keep in mind this ONLY happens when she meets a new friend, any other time we don't need to make plans, we just hang out since we see each other everyday and night. I don't understand???
2007-01-26 14:11:37 · update #1
Sounds like she feels as though you are not giving her the amount of freedom she needs to do her own thing.
Either that or she feels guilty for wanting to hang out with a new friend and isn't comfortable having to choose between seeing you or the new person.
In any case, it is easier for her to pick a fight with you about it because it enables her to hang out with the new friend without feeling bad for leaving you behind.
You both may just spend too much time together. Some distance may help her to regain her sense of independence, which in turn will make her feel more comfortable with making new friends without having to worry about how she thinks you might react to it.
2007-01-26 15:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by MissFr3sh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her its fine whenever wants to hang out with a new friend. Words are the answer.
2007-01-26 22:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After eight long years you should have figured out that it's pointless to try to figure women out. All you have to do is say "Yes, ma'm" or "No, ma'm", keep your eyes to the floor whenever a good-looking woman passes by, and ALWAYS remember that she is right regardless of how stupid her argument is. Do that, and you're ready for the altar!
2007-01-26 22:19:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember when you and her first started dating and you blew every bodie off just to be with this new person. its the same with a new friend you wanna spend more time with them and have different coversations them with the same old friends its new and exsiting and mabye this new friend has different ideas on how to have fun unlike her old friends who they just do the same old thing over and over. she probley dosent wanna make you jealouse. and she thinks that if she breaks up with you she can spend all the time in the world with this new friend. she's putting herself in your shoes and if you did that to her she would break up with you right? well she probley thinks that when you wanna do is break it off so she doing it first. is you under stand? men and from mar women and from venus read the book it help me!
2007-01-26 22:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by boo_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this girl needs space, give her some space, u trying to smother her.
let her have her friends and space, find u a good hobby or go out with her and her friends to a movie.
U both may need to sow your wild oats and date others.
2007-01-26 22:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMM.. THATS A HARD QUESTION. maybe she wants her new friends to think that even though she has a bf she can still do whatever she wants too.
2007-01-26 22:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Kevin Jonas♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋