2007-01-26 14:08:51 · 10 answers · asked by AST 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you attend both events, you should buy two gifts. Knowing that most of us are on tight budgets...the shower gift is generally something for the bride-to-be only...lingerie for her trousseau, makeup, perfume, lotions, gift certificate for a manicure, etc.
Money is always good for the wedding, but there are inexpensive gifts for the wedding couple, that often get overlooked as wedding gifts. Examples are: wall clock, alarm clock, welcome mat for their front entry, pillows, placemats, fabric napkins, candles, etc.
2007-01-26 17:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by angelpoet04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only need to purchase a gift for the shower if you plan on attending. If you do not plan on attending then it's up to you whether or not you want to give a shower gift.
It is customary, *but not obligatory*, to give the couple a wedding gift. Weddings are about two people beginning their lives together. Weddings should not be about gifts.
I honestly don't know when or where our society became so obsessed with getting stuff and using events such as weddings, baby showers, etc as gift grabs. I've actually been to weddings where the couple "padded" the guest list just so they could get more stuff.
2007-01-26 17:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are invited to both then you need to buy two gifts. The bridal shower gift is meant for the bride-to-be (lotions/soaps, gift cards for various places or even lingerie if you are a close enough friend). When you buy a gift for the wedding, it should be for the both of them to get use out of (money and candles are always safe bets for the wed. gift).
2007-01-26 14:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Misty F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are invited to both and attend them you should buy two gifts. The shower has a registry and the wedding has a registry, ask where THEY are registed for the wedding, and where SHE is registered for the bridal shower.
2007-01-26 14:44:45 · answer #4 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends... were you invited to both? If just one, you buy one gift. And if anything, give cash. Might sound impersonal, but it's honestly best, especially at weddings, and certainly if they already live together.
2007-01-26 14:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rednr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are separate events, so require two separate gifts. The shower gift is of a more modest nature.
2007-01-26 14:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in my view I provide at the two. I even have continuously seen the bridal bathe as a modern-day for the female and the marriage as a modern-day for the couple. via fact of them giving one modern-day you ought to the two purchase 2 inexpensive provides or provide one modern-day. in the adventure that your only giving one i might advise giving it on the bridal bathe via fact provides are opened there. And giving only a card on the marriage just to nicely known which you have been there. sturdy success!
2016-09-28 01:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by zeitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is proper etiquette, but I only buy one. I'm not made of money.
2007-01-26 14:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you give both if you are invited to both.
2007-01-26 17:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both.
2007-01-26 16:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋