Wedding Invitation Wording Help ....?

Question

I am looking for wording for wedding invitations.
I have heard of people who at the time of gettingmarried have been living together for years and therefore dont need any gifts, so tey put a verse in the invite stating such, and requesting money to a travel agent for honey moon, wishing well, etc.
Has anyone seen or used any of these clever verses?

How do i get around people buying gifts - we dont need any, we have all we need for ourselves and our home.
Gifts that we are given will be appreciated (we are not ungreatful), however, we dont need, wont use ect gifts. Seems silly for family and friends to be buying un neccessary gifts.

Answer 1

Ok, Ok...people love to tell you this is bad etiquette and is rude but come on, we live in the year 2007. The book of etiquette has changed imensely over the years and people just need to grow up. It pretty much goes without saying that if you are invited to a wedding you will be bringing a gift or card. If not then I would consider this rude and cheap. I would not feel offended at all if soneone were to suggest no gifts and a money tree or wishing well instead. Here are two poems I came across that can assist you a little in being polite:

Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
We don't need a wedding list of dishes
We have the kettles, the toasters, the linen
All we lack now is a house to put it in.
If you would like to give us a gift,
We know of something that would give us a lift
Please donate your love to our own little 'Well'
How grateful we'd be, we just cannot tell.

To save you from looking, shopping, or buying.
Here is an idea, we hope you don’t mind trying.
Come to our wedding to wish us both well,
And make some use of our little wishing well.
Your wishes will be used to find a home of our own
Which we will have you to thank, when our family has grown
Now that we have saved you all of the fuss,
We hope that you will come and celebrate with us!

Just remember it's your wedding, not anyone elses. Do what you want and what you feel comfortable with...and Congrats!

Answer 2

Etiquette - what a crock!!! 50 years ago we weren't expected to hold a sit down meal for 200 of your 'closest' friends and family - nor were you expected to live together before the actually wedding...

If it's the done thing to invite your 2nd cousin who you haven't seen since you were 12 - then it's the done thing to guide people to what you'd like as wedding present.

If you rock up to a wedding without a gift - you're CHEAP!!!

If the bride and groom request you contribte to a store registry, a honeymoon registry or a wishing well - you should respect their wishes and do so...

Weddings are a MASSIVE massive cost these days (well over $100.00 a head) and that's always my starting point to how much I contribute when I attend a wedding.

Store and honeymoon registries generally have little cards to put in the same envelope as the invitation so there's no need to mention it on the formal invite. The cards are pretty detailed and is all the guest needs to contribute.

Answer 3

No, I haven't seen them, but there have been so many questions on here about this topic. It just is not done; it is not appropriate at all to ask for money in cash, gift cards, towards a honeymoon, towards home renovation, or for a nursery - all topics brides recently asked about.
If a couple TRULY doesn't want gifts, this is acceptable to mention in a very gracious way. However, though, not if you want something else. Guests to a wedding are not "required" to bring a gift, though of course most do. The reason is to help the new couple out with things for their new life together. Asking for money, or something similar, is a serious breach of etiquette and is not in good taste.
Congrats on the engagement, and good luck!

Answer 4

Proper etiquette dictates that you are not to mention gifts anywhere on (or in) the invitation. End of story. While gifts are customary they are NOT obligatory.

Let your friends and family know that you don't need anything, and that if they feel that they must get you something, then you prefer money.

As for gift cards, have you thought of asking for gift cards for some of your favorite places such as restaurants, bookstores, home improvement stores, etc? My husband and I live in a small apartment so we don't have room for "stuff". We do however enjoy going out to dinner, the movies, renting movies, reading/collecting books and I enjoy crafting. Instead of asking for things for Christmas or birthdays we request gift cards for dinners, movies, books, craft stores, etc. We can then get what we want and we don't have to pay for it.

Personally, whenever I get an invitation to a wedding that has registry info or "monetary gifts preferred" I wont' give them anything. To me it comes across as being a gift grabbing gimme pig. I feel like they don't want me there, they're only inviting me for the gift.

Answer 5

I am getting married in less than 2 months so this is my experience because i'm totally in your shoes. We don't want gifts, either. In an invitation, there is absolutely no room for mention of your preference, or not, of gifts. This knowledge gets passed on through word of mouth. Go online to see example wordings of wedding invitations.

Your lack of having a registry will prevent people from getting you gifts and when asked, just tell them your preference :)

Congratulations :)

Answer 6

First, congratulations! As to your question, there is no "correct" way to tell people (on your invitations) what they should or should not get you for a gift. There just isn't. The correct way is to pass the word to a few close friends and family members, knowing that others will ask them for gift ideas.

Of course, you can create something "clever" if you must. Just know that there is no correct way to do it.

Answer 7

Short answer. You don't and it's tacky.

Long answer: To get around unwanted gifts, do not register anywhere and when people ask then you can tell them that if they are so inclined they can give money for the honeymoon. But ONLY if they ask.

An invitation to a wedding is just that, an invitation to celebrate your joyous life changing event. You are not a beggar, so don't behave like one.

Answer 8

First of all frnd, Congrts In advance.And hope your marriage life will be happy . You can just write down colors of your casual and see in ms pain or word which color would match best.For wording and theme you just visit below site You also get idea about Personalized Favors.

Answer 9

Yes, seen and currently in the process of using one :) I like using "Monetary gifts prefered"... puts it out there and not giving a certain amount. Got one last year that said "$100 per person. Please, no personal cheques". I thought it was very inappropriate. Not everyone can afford $100 per person (though it is the norm around this area). I was at a wedding last year that was $200/person. Too much in my opinion... anyways, good luck!

Answer 10

Read and search all wedding invite sites. They will give you ideas. You can even construct your own from all the other ideas you start putting together.