im 17 and my parents hate him b/c of his past but he has changed alot and they just dont understand... what should i do?
2007-01-26 13:50:55 · 15 answers · asked by lauren a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your parents know you better than anyone else and they just don't want to see you get hurt ask them and hopefully you won't get a patronizing answer, do you love him that much?
2007-01-26 13:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by saxophone girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lived this with my parents and my ex. They were right about him, but I wanted to believe otherwise. I also didn't want to admit I was wrong about him, even when all the indicators showed me otherwise. I have also seen it from the parents viewpoint with my own kids. You say he has changed "alot". Hmmm, sounds like a cover to me. Unfortunately, you probably won't take anything said here to heart. You are simply looking for an affirmation of the wrong path. Sorry, can't help you there. You need to sit down and write an honest list of why you are fighting about him with your parents. Not wanting to be wrong is usually a big reason to stay with someone that doesn't deserve you. You would be wise, generally speaking, to follow your parents advice and run, don't walk, away from this guy.
2007-01-26 14:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents probably don't hate him, but they do love you. Do you think they would try to hurt you just for the heck of it. All they care about is your future and he can still be a part of your future but for right this second love him but honor your parents to. You think you can't do both at the same time but you can and your parents will always be there to pick you up when you fall. Is this boyfriend more important then the relationship with your parents? It is so lonely to live in a world without your parents love and approval. you think that your boyfriend, husband, kids, or bestfriend can fill that space but they don't and can't. Love your parents till it hurts because they won't always be here. I have been in the exact same boat as you. I made the wrong choice by choosing somebody over my parents and now I am more or less shunned from them. Its a lonely place.
Love in Christ!!
2007-01-26 14:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents, or older people I should say (which parents qualify) or usually right. They are smarter and have experienced more than what they are willing to share. Your parents love you and have your interests in mind. everyone has potential. But potential does not cut it. We, as women, cannot make a man with potential. Potentially, they have to a man and set an example. Do you want your kids to be like him, or do what he has done in the past? If not, then let him go.
2007-01-26 13:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysloved4ever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to bring your parents and the guy together so they can meet ang get to know each other. I believe in chances. ask your parents to, for a second, try to understand what you're going through. like, why are they refusing someone they don't even know. now, if they know him and they get a real good reason to not like him, that would be a different story. good luck!
2007-01-26 13:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by ilovefrappes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweaty i dont thing any one can say what you may wish to hear but remember your parents r your closest expert of life n i beleive they only care about ur wellbeing if they say no there is a reason n you long way to go in life......
2007-01-26 14:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by tall man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my sister dated a real prick and my mother absolutely hated his guts.
Maybe if he takes you out to places like dinner or the movies.
Always feel flattered when hes around and always smile.
I really dont know how to help sorry.
GOODLUCK.xx
2007-01-26 14:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think you should get your b/f to prove to your parents that he has changed. but most of the time your parents will realize that if you truely love him and he truely loves you then he is the right guy so i think that is pretty much all i have to say
2007-01-26 13:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents love you and want the best for you. And whether you want to believe it or not...probably have a good opinion of him. You don't see it because you are involved with him. They see it because they are not involved. they just see their little girl making a bad decision.
Respect the folks...and dump the bum.
2007-01-26 14:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents just want whats best for you. Try sitting down and talk to them. Explain to them that you are almost an adult and that they should respect your decisions.
2007-01-26 13:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Troubled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋