I think it's a good idea for when they're REALLY bad, this way they know there's something to be afraid of coming at them.
It's a better idea than taking their lollipop away from them and making them sit in a corner for 2 minutes.
2007-01-26 13:57:40
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answered by Random G 3
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Dont do it. In today's society you CANT spank or else the police will lock you up and take your kids away. Sadly parents are thought of as child abusers if you even just lightly spank your kid. Because some children are really beaten like crazy the department of social services does not see the area as shades of gray. It is black & white. Meaning either you never hit your kids and = a good parent or you hit your kid even just once and you = a bad parent.
So dont spank your kids or else you could have them taken away or get tased. And you dont know the situation, maybe she kept spanking the kid even when police were present. And maybe she wasnt just spanking with her hand, but instead using a weapon.
2007-01-26 18:18:48
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answered by Educated 7
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I agree with you - it is insane for a grandmother to get tased for spanking her grandchild.
In certain instances, I think spanking is the only way to get through to a child.
I don't however believe in using other things to make the spanking worse than it needs to be - like wooden spoons, rulers, or belts... there is definitely a fine line between an anger/force spanking and tough love spanking.
2007-01-26 14:42:51
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answered by P. K. 6
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I would only spank a child if
1. It was last resort. (After time outs, groundings, etc. didn't work.)
2. If the child put themselves in danger (run out infront of a car, play with matches, etc.)
As for letting someone else spank my kid. I guess it would be alright if it was like my parents or family or something.
There is a difference between spanking and abuse. I have seen the difference.
All this "spanking leads to violence, and a child to cause more trouble"... Let me tell you something. I was spanked. I have never EVER gotten in a fist fight. I have never hit anyone out of anger. I have never been suspended from school. I have done wrong things at school, but everyone makes mistakes. Seriously. The worst punishment I recieved at school was a time out and once where I got a "check mark" on my sheet for talking too much during "quiet time". I have never been sent to the office. I am not depressed. I don't have any animosity towards anyone who has ever spanked me. I don't fear someone's every move. And I have definitely never been in trouble with the police.
Difference? So many kids aren't spanked (or any form of disciplined now) Those are the ones who are in and out of detention. Suspended on a weekly basis. Talking back to teachers. Telling teachers that "they can't do anything about it". Calling their parents "b i t c h e s" and other names like that. Getting "grounded", yet sneaking out and sneaking on the computer and watching tv when their parents aren't around. Aren't afraid of any consequence in the world because their parents chose that they wanted their children to respect, not "fear". These children are usually the children who have to be disciplined by the police when they become a teenager.
My opinion on the whole thing is every parent should allowed to discipline their child the way they please as long as they aren't leaving bruises or any other marks. If someone chooses not to spank, then mind your own business and your own child. Stop worrying about what other parents do and chill out yourself. To butt into someone's business and call child protection services on someone you see spanking a child in the grocery store is a little ridiculous. People just need to get lives. There are too many kids who are facing ACTUAL abuse to be so worried about kids who are just being disciplined.
2007-01-26 14:27:22
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answered by Annamarie 5
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It depends on your definition of spanking, my dad always did it bare handed, fingers spread apart, his dad used a switch, a small stick off a tree, my mom got whipped with a thick leather strap called a razor strap, bare hand on a butt (nowhere else) is fine, using belts, sticks, flyswatters, etc. to me is abuse, there's a big difference between the two. My brothers and I were spanked, so were all our friends when we were kids, we deserved every spanking we got. I think I'm better off because I got a smack across my butt when I was being naughty. Having a spanking taught me not to be disrespectful (smart mouthing my parents or others), not to damage someone else's property (breaking a toy, playing with matches or setting fire to the neighbors lawn, yes, I did this, once), it taught me to have respect for my teachers (they had wooden paddles with holes that they used, the sight of them hanging on the wall was enough to deter any naughty thought that I had, also, if you got spanked at school, you got it twice as bad at home, it's funny, I only knew of three kids that were paddled at school, all 12 years of it), I was only spanked up until the ripe old age of 7, after that, the groundings came in, and they were enforced, no TV, no radio, no phones, basically I came home from school, sat in my room and read, it might be for a day or up to a month, depending on what you did. I'm glad that my parent handed out this type of discipline, it's not something that can be taught to an older person, if you stop the problems/naughtiness while the kids are young, you have less problems when they're teens and adults.
2007-01-26 14:50:03
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answered by sheila33 3
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They tased a grandmother for spanking her grandchild....your right that is insane.....
a lot of people are opposed to spankings ....than you have people who live in a reality that has children of all personalities and traits.....what works for some will not work for all and they know this.....when everything else fails...a swat or two on the bum might just do the trick..........
That US kid a few years back in Singapore..probably wished his parents had wore his butt out and kept him from doing stupid crap before he ended up getting a public caning for sneaking out and vandalizing cars.......caning is a beating...swatting a child on the behind is not the same.........
parents can either teach their children there is negative consequences to their actions..or the world will ...
2007-01-26 14:14:17
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answered by LeftField360 5
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I evaluate in spanking. i trust it may might want for use as a very last inn punishment. as an social gathering, even as our daughter flat out does no longer pay interest to us and saved doing an identical element we would want to been telling her to no longer do and time outs, eliminating television, radio, toys, etc. did not artwork we did spank her. It worked. She began listening. each youngster is distinct though. For some youthful children spankings shouldn't have any impression. My 3 year historic niece is continuously getting a swat or 2 for now no longer listening or for being too troublesome mutually such as her little sister (she's now no longer the nicest newborn) and she or he or he'll act harm about it, then turn round and do an identical element she'd basically gotten a swat for once more effective! different youthful children it truly works for if utilized sparsely. i have determined that could want to opt to you tell a baby "supply up that or i will spank you," and it really is a consistent danger it does no longer have as a lot impression and does no longer do what it really is meant to do. i change into once spanked as a baby and it did not scar me for existence. My mum and dad even used a leather-depending belt and it did it really is procedure. I behaved for likely the most element. in spite of the undeniable fact that, for my area, i trust it really is powerful that you basically use your hand in case you'll spank. once you're feeling quite soreness, then with somewhat of success you already know even as to offer up. Too many folk spank their youthful children even as their indignant and recuperate from excited. In our better half and children the rule of thumb is 3 swats maximum with the palm of our hand on a fully clothed bottom. we do not hit the leg, the again, etc. basically on the bottom this is blanketed.
2016-10-17 03:37:20
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answered by ? 4
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there's a difference between spanking and beating. I spank my kid once in a while, and feel guilty immediatly after....for no good reason. A spank is like a shock back to reality - it shouldn't really "hurt" a little kid, but should shock them back to reality - like "hello! I'm the boss here, think about what your'e doing and how you're acting!" I live in a very liberal town, I spanked my kid once in public. She was throwing a fit in a bookstore because I said it was time to go home and went to pick her up. She bit my forearm so hard it drew blood and I had a bruise that lasted for months. While I will admit that it took every ounce of restraint not to choke her, I did swat her butt. I swear, I was worried that someone would call the police or protective services.
2007-01-26 14:07:28
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answered by lew22204 2
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Personally I don't see any harm in giving your kid a smack on the @ss every once and a while, but there is a fine line. I don't know. I do know that I would not allow anyone else to hit my kids but I think I should have the right to discipline as I see fit. All I know is I was spanked as a kid and I am a pretty well adjusted, contributing member of society. I learned what I was not supposed to do. And I am better for it. I respect other people and laws.
2007-01-26 14:05:22
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answered by Killer Klingon 3
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Errr... I hate how afraid everyone is these days!!! I was spanked as a child. Very infrequently, but it was still a deterent. I don't believe in using belts or anything excessive because how bad it hurts isn't the point. It makes me crazy how much society gets in the business of parents. For God's sake, spank your kids if it works, just use sense and don't BEAT them.
2007-01-27 01:00:05
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answered by Christina W 2
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i was spanked as a kid. Not abused, just slapped when i was bad, it never left marks. And guess what, it worked on me. I would do a bad thing again if i just got yelled at for it, but i wouldn't repeat things if i got spanked. But now, I would not spank a kid, because of all those soft wussie people out there who think it's abuse and would want to take the child away
2007-01-26 14:03:04
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answered by ALM 6
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