Has anyone lost their parent recently?

Question

My father was diagnosed two months ago with liver failure. He is nearing the end of his life and Ifeel so lost already without him. When I look at him, I can't imagine life without him. He was and is my hero. How do you deal witit? Watching them suffering....wanting to help and not being able to do anything about it?

Answer 1

So sorry to hear that. I went through that a few years ago, I know you are hurting now, time will take care of that. I do not want to sound harsh here at all, sometimes when their
time does come, peace can come along with the sorry. They will no longer be suffering!! Maybe just try to put yourself in his place, then you will realize letting go is not the worst thing. Before you know it your sadness will turn to laughter, remembering all the good times.

Stay close to family and friends, your mom will need you now. Don't forget, we are all here for you too, our thoughts are with you.!!!

Answer 2

I'm truly sorry for what you and your family are going through at this time. I'm sorry your father is feeling this pain. There is no way to deal with it. Everyone is different. Some people turn to music, a lifestyle change, or making a difference in someone else's life, like volunteering (though I don't recommend this unless you're truly ready for it, cause it can also be difficult). The best thing to do is be with your family. Don't be afraid to cry and find someone to confide in. You can't keep everything in. It will hurt even more and then you'll just get angry and blow up on someone who really doesn't deserve it.

Enjoy the time you do have with your father. Keep up conversations of happy times with him (like childhood memories, christmas' shared... the good old days) and confide in him while he's here. Let him know you love him and trust him, and that's he's still a person. :) He'll truly appreciate that.

And don't be ashamed to admit you miss him in 10, 20 or 30 years. I know it's far away, but I miss mine every day. And I'm not ashamed to admit it. :)

Answer 3

I have lost both parents, but i know they are in a better zone.
U just have to pray , hold his hand tight and pray.
But u havent lost him yet and liver failure could be reversed
if u do some research on it.
Alternative therapy may help like herbs, vitamins and even
healing foods.
Prayer heals, miracles happens.
Remember if u do lose a loved one, the smell of honeysuckles or just eating them helps u cope with the loss.

Answer 4

I have not lost any of my parents and I am very grateful for this to God. However I did loose my brother, and all I can tell you is that no matter how blurry you might see the future ahead of you without your beloved father God will provide you the strength and energy to continue your path. We go through difficult tasks and unpleasant circumstances in our lives, but if you have the faith and the optimism you will survive the thunder and see with a positive attitude the road before you.

Answer 5

My mom died 1-1/2 years ago after over 6 months of watching her suffer in pain and me being a nurse fighting with the doctors and caretakers to put her on dialysis and give her blood transfusions. she had kidney failure and her blood levels were always low but because she was obese, they told me that it was against policy to give her these things because she had been sick for so long. I'm sorry but I worked in the health district long enough to know that it wasn't true, they just didn't want to help her because she was obese and felt that it was a waste. Now I have no parents...at age 25 and my brother at age 22 lost our only parent. She hung on long enough to meet and greet her fourth grandchild into the world.
It's not easy to get through and it still hurts. Just make sure you tell him that you love him very much and that he is your hero. You will find that once their suffering is over, relief takes over with the grief. I was relieved to have mom out of pain but I still wanted her with me......I still do and miss her horribly everyday.
Take care.

Answer 6

Probably the hardest thing you will ever have to deal with. If his time is coming near...there really isnt much you can do. But, while he is still around..make sure you spend time with him...talk a lot about happy memories...make the time count...because after he is gone you will at least have had that time. Cherish the good memories. This is all our fates...your time will come also...as everyone else.

Answer 7

Numbness will encase your soul when you hear the news he has "left the building". After about a week and a half, it will suddenly hit you. You just need some time alone to reflect, and time will soon heal your heartache. Just don't turn to alcohol for support, it doesn't heal anything- maybe seek counseling if you can't cope with the grief. My condolences-

Answer 8

Make the most of your time with him
say everything you wanted to
find out what he wants you to do right now for him
Has he been Saved?
just talk about how much you love him Now when you can and Cherish the time youve had with him
Many things were left unsaid in our case
which I will always regret

Answer 9

My Mom died of Emphizema just over 2 years ago. She too was sick for a long time. Even though it is hard to see our loved ones in a poor state, we alone get the chance to say our goodbyes, as aposed to those that are suddenly taken.
My Mom died on her Birthday, and it made it expecially tough. I got to say good bye, but I did not get to say Happy Birthday....

Answer 10

look around your life and just count your blessings, my dad died when i was 4 years old, but i never even seed him because he lived in another country at the time... and every day i wish that i had at least known him.... just be grateful that you were able to know him and love him, and that he was able to know you and love you. surround your self with positive people and positive things. spend all the time you can with him, and pray that god, if your a believer, help you and your family through this. god bless you and your family