My mom doesn love me anymore???

Question

My mom said she doesnt have to love me anymore and in the summer, she will send me far away to my aunt and uncle in Germany and I've never been in another country before besides the U.S.She said she doesnt ahve to put a roof over my head anymore and she doesnt have to care for me, and I cant eat her food unless I pay for it or do chores around the house.

She really hurt my feelings and I didnt do anything that bad to make her say that. I just forgot to feed our dogs and she had to yell two times but I didnt hear her because I was in my room with the music up loud. The final time she yelled for me, she fed the dogs by herself and she started to say all those things to me.

I slammed my door because she made me sad/ mad and she bursted open the door and started to say all those things becase I forogt to feed our dogs one time only. I was doing my project. Now in the smmmer, I'm moving to Germany and she's cancleing my internet and said I cant watch t.v. . I

I'm sad/mad cuz I dont have t.v., internet, or love from my mom. And I dont want to move to Germany by myself, I want to stay her with all my friends until I graduate from high school [I'm an 8th grader].

She said all those hurtful things and I dont know what to do....what do I do until summer? No t.v. or internet

I dont know anybody in Germany except for my four cousin, aunats, and uncles. Its going to be weird being with them....I dotn want to move!!!!!!

Uhhh, I really think she's serious...we've been fighting over stupid stuff for several months and I bet she's really pissed off at me and I didnt do that much. Its just little things, like getting my period and the blood leaking in my underwear. [thats all]...nothing big right?

I am responsible and clean. I sometimes do chores around the house but at least, I try to do them right? She doesnt ahve to send me the Germany

You dont get it Chirstina, you didnt read my question properly...I bet u proably jsut skimmed thro it fast. Read it again.....she's sending me to Germany for the summer because we've been fightning for several months and I dont want to move!!!!

Answer 1

Let me get this straight.

She asked you to feed the dogs and you didn't do it because you were watching tv and have internet service.

And now you're upset because she's canceling your internet and you can't watch tv. And she's telling you that she's sending you to Germany.

And the only reason she yelled at you was because of the dogs and nothing else? Nothing at all?

Something sounds fishy.

Answer 2

You're on the internet now? Anyway, I don't think your mom is going to send you away. Unfortunately, grown-ups say mean things and sometimes make threats that they don't mean. She hasn't even thought out how she's going to send you to Germany. It costs money and you can't live over there for free. She would have to still take care of you financially. Your mom loves you...say some prayers, lay low, maybe read a book and let time sooth her anger. Your mother loves you!

Answer 3

I know this sounds a little rash... but i would turn her in to child services and see if you can't get her put in jail for verbal child abuse and not feeding you. That is a serious crime. I know you may not want to see your mom in jail, bugt I honestly think that it would be the best thing for both of you. You would go to a foster home, and she would go to jail and then counceling. Maybe in the end, after she got some anger management, and some mental counceling you two could work on building up the bond between you again. If your lucky, you may be able to stay at a friends house as a foster home or a local family member if you have one. I hope you can work things out. and Im sorry to hear about what she did to you.

Answer 4

First, I am asuming that your dad is not around due to you not mentioning him. And I want you to know I have four kids ranging in age from 6 to 17.

We as moms get really frustrated sometimes. And sometimes we say things that we don't mean. And you will one day see where we are coming from when you have your own kids. (i know, you have heard that from her!)

My day starts at 4 am. I have to be at work by six, so if I want to walk the dogs, get ready, take care of lunches, get my coffee, and not speed, I have to leave by 5:30. Work till three, most days with no breaks or lunch, I eat on the production floor because I have some young employees who were never taught to be responsible and self reliant, even for a measley ten mins or half hour. I leave at three, pick up kds from school, go home start homework, clean up thier morning mess, so laundry, cook dinner, then clean up dinner, get every one to bed, and if I am lucky I get to bed by ten and have a whopping six hours to sleep. And that is how the day is when I DON'T WORK MY SECOND JOB!!

I rely on my kids to help out with cleaning the living room, feeding the dogs, and cleaning thier own rooms. When they cannot do these things it really sends a bad message to me. As you can see I bust my rump to meet the needs of the house to the best of my ability. when I come home if they have not done what is expected of them, or we get home and they go into thier rooms and do what ever it is they are doing, all I hear is "We don't care about you because you are here to serve us only, we don't have to listen or hear you because we have no RESPECT for you."

Now I do realize that this is not the message they intend on sending to me. But if I have to ask twice for their help, it is the one that is recieved. And if I have to shout to get thier attention, boy you better look out!! I too get angry, and I know I have also said things that were hurtful.

Anger is almost always a secondary emotion, triggered by us feeling a primary emotion. If we focus on the secondary, we aren't facing what the real problem is. Also, we do get the most angry with the people we really love. If we don't care about them, we tend not to waste the energy or time.

It always helps me when after one of our little family episodes my kds step up and become more helpful than the norm. It says to me "Hey mom, I heard you and I care." They might not say it out loud but it is the message sent. It is along time till summer. Think of all the things your mom does for you. Do you ever run out of toothpaste? Is there ketchup in the fridge? You have tv and internet! there are so many things that we don't even realize our parents do for us because it has always just been.

Do the things you are asked to do. And do them the first time asked, or before! Do something nice for her out of the blue, when you guys are not fighting. I will mean alot to her, and in turn when you do forget something, she might not be so quick to fly off at you.

Moms and daughters have a tough dynamic to work with, and I know it is not easy. But hang in there and go the extra mile once in a while and you will probably get it back!

Good Luck and I hope my ramble helped.

Answer 5

something isn't right here.....if your mom is reallly mad at you and doesn't love you then why do you want to stay with her?? where's your dad? can't you stay with him?....that would be so awesome to go to germany!....if ur mom was really even serious about that...you can make new friends there and keep in touch with the old ones.....it's not like they dont have internet over there...

Answer 6

You sound like a first class brat. I would ship you away too for being so annoying. You were wrong and now your mom is fed up. You spent so much time on the intenet and playing loud music, did you think she had to just take your rotten behavior.. Now she is done and you should be happy she is sending you somewhere and not just putting your bratty butt on the street to fend for yourself. Learn a lesson you mom does not have to be nice to you especially if you are not nice to her. Grow up

Answer 7

Go to the police and say that she is moving to Germany because she doesnt want to support you. And yes she does, it is called child support, and everyone has to pay it until you are 18. But why would your mom say these things?

Answer 8

I feel the same way MAYBE (I'm not sure) but maybe your mom didn't want a kid in the first place.I feel the same way as you 😞 But the best thing yo do is just pretend to feel happy and think of happy things not sad things.

Answer 9

no mother in her right mind would say something so horrible to her child. it might be possible she is suffering from depression or maybe having a breakdown due to stress. please sit her down tell her how hurt you . Tell her you love her and dont want to leave. Maybe you can find out what drove her to say something so mean . Then together the two of you can make things better for you and for her.And remember you are precious you are wanted and you are loved GOODLUCK!!!!

Answer 10

Sounds like psychological abuse to me. Tell your guidence counselor, your pastor, a teacher. Any of these people are required by law to report abuse.
Tell your father.

On the other hand, getting away from your mother doesn't sound like such a bad idea. She is not nice.