A coworker/friend is having problems with her partner. She has asked to stay with my partner and I until she can figure things out. This is the second time this has happened. The first time was okay but now that things aren't so smoothe with my partner and I, we would prefer that she not stay with us so that we can continue to work through our problems. What is a polite way of telling her no without 1) being rude 2) letting her know that we are also having problems?
2007-01-26 13:08:30 · 15 answers · asked by mrypumpkn 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would say "I would really love to help you but _____ and I are also having some problems, I didnt want to say anything because of what you were going through but it probably would be akward and I dont think ______ would be happy if I had someone stay, Im really sorry but I hope you know I am still here for you!
2007-01-26 13:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is such a tough situation....
if your partner isn't friends with her then can you blame it on him? tell her that he is adamant no one stays with them anymore.
if that isn't an option just saying something like,
"i feel SO terrible but we aren't able to have houseguests right now. we have so much going on and as a couple came to the agreement that we need to keep our home private. to go back on my end of the agreement wouldn't be fair. i want to help you out and asked around about some respected marriage counselors that are accepting new patients. i really hope you understand."
good luck! SD
2007-01-26 13:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do ought to have a severe communicate along with your boyfriend. elect a place to communicate to him, no longer your place, someplace public like a eating place. tell him that having his father there is no longer working, and that his Dad needs to discover someplace else to stay, because of the fact having him there is affecting your nerves. attempt to come again up with something mutually which you will the two stay with - he won't decide to look advise to his father, so which you're able to ought to head with your words heavily. Do it mutually - yet your boyfriend might ought to assert "Dad, you comprehend we care approximately you, yet we've been thinking if next week-end could be a stable time so you might bypass away, because of the fact we want the gap for the recent infant?" If he easily has nowhere to bypass, you're able to ought to discover someplace for him. there is yet another factor you need to purpose - it does no longer be ordinary for me because of the fact i'm exceedingly up-front variety of gal, yet once you think of you need to do it, you need to purpose enjoying the "undesirable little woman" - you comprehend, the frail, pregnant, helpless little flower (i comprehend, it may be complicated for me too), yet some adult males respond truly properly to this female style - so possibly some tears, some unhappiness, a splash "i don't comprehend ways i'll regulate" and "i'm so grateful I even have you ever to guard me and guard me, sweetheart", and an afternoon or 2 the place you need to stay in mattress to relax - this basically ought to paintings (you comprehend your boyfriend greater desirable than I do). stable luck!
2016-11-27 20:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her "I'm so sorry for your situation, but we have already had a discussion about this sort of situation previously, when we were asked by someone else, and we decided that we simply cannot bring someone else to live in our home." Along with that I'd say, "We're here for you and will help you in any OTHER way we can."
2007-01-26 15:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I'd like to help you, but we're not in a position to share our home right now. I hope you understand. I'd be happy to let you know if I hear of someone looking for a room-mate." Keep it simple, direct, and honest. No need to excuse yourself or explain, or apologize.
2007-01-26 14:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say "I'd really love to help you out, but I've got my/his entire family staying with us, and there's absolutely nowhere you could sleep comfortably. There are already people sleeping on the floor." or maybe "We're remodeling the entire place. All our walls inside are knocked over, and at the moment, it would be difficult to accomodate guests to stay with us. I can help you make arrangements, though."
2007-01-26 14:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by -:- Masha -:- 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just act like Simon Cowell, Stand up open the door and say I don't mean to be rude but get out! Works for him. :)
2007-01-26 13:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by southforty1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell this person, they won't solve anything by staying with you and your partner and that you are also working on things with your parnter that you would like to give privacy and attention to.
2007-01-26 13:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by Debt Free! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm so sorry that we can't put you up right now. Perhaps I can help you find some other place to stay.
2007-01-26 13:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by dmb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that I would love her/him to stay, but I´m really busy. Maybe we can hangout later. It works every time to me.
2007-01-26 13:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by pink lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋