Its for 5- 6 hours 3 times a week. She only watches my 3 year old who is very well mannered with her. I was thinking $15 a day. Is that too much or too little? She watches her daughter's little girl who is a very demanding child who is extremely spoiled for free but asks us to pay. Is it wrong for me to feel jipped here?
2007-01-26 13:07:55 · 18 answers · asked by Married and loving it!!!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think your best bet is to find someone else to watch the kid. Mother in laws are a pain in the *** and will lead to nothing but trouble. If you ever got behind on paying her money for whatever reason I'm sure everyone in the family would know your business. We did it for about a year and I am sorry we did. Try and find another soulution. Good luck.
2007-01-26 13:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by bubba 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate anything that is remotely unfair. This is it, right here. The definition of unfair. I would find someone else that is not family to watch your child before I give the mother-in-law a penny. Charging you and not charging her daughter is horrible. I'd ask her daughter what she pays (knowing it's zero) and then ask why she gets babysitting for free. Does your mother in law owe her daughter money and babysitting is how she pays her back? What's the story here? Is the daughters offspring more valued because it came from her daughter? Did you produce a child that is somehow less of a grandchild to her? Ugh.
Come on, that's rotten.
Since your 3 year old is well behaved, you wouldn't have a hard time finding someone to watch her. There has to be a responsible college student that needs the $15 and would love to help you out. I'd look elsewhere. She is treating you and your child differently. Why is that? And what other slights are you and your child going to suffer if you continue to have this person in your home on a regular basis?
You should feel "jipped" She IS giving you the shaft. I would find that sort of thing very insulting. It's a huge indicator of how she sees your family and it's not good.
2007-01-26 14:28:50 · answer #2 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If the daughter can't afford to pay then she needs the help, or maybe, your mother-in-law feels that the child needs the care that she is providing. Pay and be thankful that you have a mother-in-law who is willing to babysit for you. There are a lot of them who won't!! She, obviously, loves your child or she wouldn't keep her for $15 a day. That isn't a lot of money to have to be tied down with a 3 year old, no matter how well behaved they are. I have been keeping my 2 grandsons since they were born, and I will tell you it is not easy, because every child requires a lot of attention. The one that is 5 has always been very easy and calm, the 15 month old has always been a handful. That has, absolutely, nothing to do with what my daughters pay me. They have, each, paid what they could afford and that is the way it should be. You cannot and should not dictate what you feel your mother-in-law should or should not do for any of her children. If you don't like the situation, you can always use a daycare. But, I think that you would be cheating your child out of a wonderful experience by doing that. However, if this is going to cause negative feelings in the family, then perhaps, you should give up your job and keep someone else's 3 year old 5-6 hours 3 times a week for $15 a day. See if you think that is an easy way to get rich. Bet you wouldn't like it very much!! *****Oh, by the way, anytime someone babysits while you work for pay, they deserve to be compensated for their time. I have never charged my daughters but they are both responsible women and would never dream of taking advantage of me that way. They feel that they get paid for their time so I should get paid for mine. We keep the kids for free many evenings or weekends when the parents want a night out. But, during the day, it is a JOB!!
2007-01-26 13:33:15 · answer #3 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You really think your MIL should do this for free? It's not just a grandma babysitting, it's at least 5 days 40 hours a week, that's not free. Sure, a date night should be free, but essentially running a daycare, should not. You, your husband, and MIL need to sit down and decide how much she gets an hour, or a week. She should be willing to take less than a daycare, but she should get screwed. And how she spends your money is of none of your concern. It's her money and if she's broke in a week, that's her fault.
2016-03-29 04:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is wrong. I would go as far as making other arangments. I get payed $50.00 a week to take my neice and nephew to and from school 2-3 times a week. I have them for a half hr in the morning and up to 2 hrs in the arvo. I am there young Anunty and have a 9 month old baby so I am at home and do not work. It did cost $36.00 a day for before and after school care. some thing will come up for you.
2007-01-26 14:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by jen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're paying about $15 too much. Sorry, but I don't think grandparents should expect to be paid for watching their grandkids, period. At least in my family, they don't. The attitude around here is "that's what family is for." Your mother-in-law is lucky to be able to spend so much time with her grandchild. That should be payment enough. Who's idea was it to pay her, anyway? I am assuming it was hers?
If anything, maybe you can offer to pay for what your child would eat for lunch/snacks/whatever, but that's it. Especially since she watches the other one for free, and that is not fair AT ALL. I hope you can figure something out. Good luck.
2007-01-26 15:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a grandmother. First of all I wouldn't charge to take care of my own grandchild, I would consider it to be a privilege. But there could be unknown circumstances you don't know about. For example, she may need money in general, or maybe she could be saving money for some specific reason, (could be for you or your hubby or child). Who knows?? I would go ahead and pay the money and I think $15.00 a day is very generous considering it is her grandchild anyways. I would ignore the fact she is babysitting free for her daughter. Like I said there really could be reasons unknown to you why she is doing this. Just do what you feel is right in your heart.
2007-01-26 13:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by deajust 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does she watch the daughter's child the same amount she does yours? Or, is it more of an "I need a break" type of thing?
If she watches them the same amount of time that is wrong. What does your husband say? I think he should say something NOT you. It is his mom after all. And, he should be upset that his child is being treated differently.
I never paid my mom to watch my son. She always loved doing it and refused money. But, every now and I again I get her something special. If nothing else but flowers or her favorite perfume.
2007-01-26 13:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since it is her grandchild you should tell her that you are only going to pay her about $50.00 a week since it is only for 5-6 hours. I paid my grandmother to watch my son when he was a baby, not because she asked, but because she was spending her time watching my son. You may feel like it is not fair that she is not charging her daughter, but not knowing her situation, your mother in law is probably doing what she thinks is fair.
2007-01-26 13:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she watch her daughter's child as much as she watches your own?
I don't know what to pay her - I have never heard of a grandparent accepting payment for babysitting.
2007-01-26 13:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by annieohbee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋