how come religion has taught men were the workers and women were to stay at home and pop out babies? but now?

Question

do you think its not a sin for women to work or not pop out a baby or not get married and make choices for herself instead of a man making them for her?

i am just as confused!

Answer 1

God, not religion per se, is the one who gave us our roles and those are the ones we find the most fulfilment in, that is when we have our hearts right towards God.
Women are to be the helpmate. However you might interpret that is between the man and the woman. I don't personally think too much of a healthy man relying on a woman to bring the bacon home. He's got a mother not a wife! However, women are better at popping out babies because men can't! Keep thinking along those lines and before you know it not only will you be wearing the pants, you'll wish you had in yours what he does, God forbid!!
Therefore, God put it in a woman's heart to be a better caretaker of the babies but of course the husband and wife have each other and share in their labors. The Bible says that a man who doesn't provide for his own household is worse than an infidel. So, unless he's crippled, (some handicapped folks can still make a living now days) then he should bring the bacon home and she should fry it up. But, Jesus as a single man could cook fish and it was the priests who bar-b-q'd all those rams and beef sides for the people in their central ovens for their feasts in the beginning and Esau who could both catch and dress the best venison.
As much as we know about the physical and psychological make up of both men and women, it is proven that the men's bodies are built for the hard physical labors and women's built to tolerate more pain and to have more endurance. I don't recall the Bible saying that a man should make up a woman's mind for her. Jesus said for him to love her as his own body. They are to submit to each other but he is still the head of the house. Look at it this way, the one with the leadership also has the greater responsibility and when something goes wrong he'll probably have to be the one to fix it and take the flack. When there is love like Christ's in the mix, then you know that love is looking out for your best interests and wouldn't ask anything more of you than they would be willing to give themselves.
Yep, men are the head but women are the neck that turns the head they say! I am not a feminist nor am I for women being pregnant and barefoot all their lives. Unless that floats their boat.
I'm glad my mom was at home every day when I came home from school and what fun it was to look for Dad to come up the drive (unless mom promised I would be in trouble when he got home!) from work. Every child should have that stability with mom teaching them how to cook and clean.
It's not a sin for a woman to work if it doesn't hinder her duties at home and as a mother. Today's moms try to be supermoms so they can have more money or what? Wait until the kids are in school or grown. You actually come out ahead in the long run. Why can't you sacrifice a few years of your life to be a parent anyway. Sounds like you resent the repsonsibility and the sacrifice? You just need to love them more than yourself. That is reward enough.
Whatever happened to natural affections anyway? Doing one's duty shouldn't be done begrudgingly but cheerfully.
If a woman doesn't get married for the sake of a career, that is an attitude of selfishness and again in rebellion to God's best for her if she has been presented with an opportunity to be committed to someone who loves her and she him. You aren't here just to claim fame and fortune and have a big career. To say it's sin might be stretching it but definitely a wrong approach and attitude to life that hints of rebellion. If God can use your life better being single such as in missions work, then be happy in whatever calling He calls you to and do it well as unto the Lord whatsoever your hands find to do. Oh, and you've got the wrong man if he thinks he has to make all the decisions without your input counting for anything. He will be a dictating controlling person. He has the wrong woman in you if you interpret that wrongly and try to tell him what to do or else then you would be the guilty controlling manipulator. It is meant to be a partnership but don't emasculate a man who truly loves you by being a contentious woman and not letting him lead.

Answer 2

LOL. I love your question. I think naturally,women are comforters and nurturers. I mean does milk come out of the nipples of men or women? Men are usually physically stronger. If you and your husband were out in a snowstorm and you had a flat tire, who would get out to fix it. I know their are exceptions to every rule, but you see what I am getting at. In my religion, women can work and own land and businesses and it is forbidden for her husband to use any of her wages for the maintenance of the home(bills etc..). For example, I have a job and all of my money goes to whatever I want like clothes or savings or whatever, it is my God given privelidge to not have to maintain my home financially, but I do pitch in when I want to. A woman should first make sure the children are taken care of though. In my faith, a man HAS to bring home the money, without question. But if the family sees fit that the husband stay home and the wife work than that is acceptable. Hope that made sense!

Answer 3

That is not taught in the Bible. Read Proverbs 31:10-31 and you will see that is not so. Women in the Bible worked, ruled, were preachers, deacons,etc.
In Biblical times a lot of women were not capable of doing the hard physical labor that men did and still pop out and tend to babies, so that attitude became prevalent.
Nowhere does the Bible say women have to get married. In fact God has a lot to say about singles and how they can glorify Him in their lives.
This is another example of someone saying the Bible says..... and people believing it without studying it their self.

Answer 4

I havn't read anything in Scripture or theology about women popping out babies. Why do assign a sociological trend with religion? You might just as well ask why religion dictates that women wear makeup, or why it is okay for a man to walk around without a shirt. Those aren't religious conventions - they are cultural influences. In Byzantine civilization, it was common to see women running the empire and occupying important aristocratic and governmental functions. That was their culture, this is ours.

Answer 5

"Religion" is a wide and varied subject. If you mean specifically the Christian religion(s), there is a dictum or dogma that leans towards Paternal Superiority. You can thank the fourth century catholic leaders for that. Generally, any religion that is directed by human males is going to tend to be teaching that the men have control over the women. Just human nature to want control.

Answer 6

The Bible was written a long time ago when that's how society worked. Also, the Bible was written by men, and technically, for men, because at one point in time, women weren't allowed to interpret it, only the pastor/preacher/priest could (who was always a man.)

It's unfortunate that today we allow ourselves to oversee some of the things that the Bible says and not others, but, we'll get there.

Great question.

Answer 7

i guess some religions teach this, like quakers & mennonites but those religions were designed by men & are outdated. i can't even beleive you're asking this question in this day & age, why would any sane person think it's not ok to think for yourself as a woman? you are stuck back in the 1950's.

Answer 8

well, that is a good point but some christians are gonna argue incompetently here. the truth is that it was understood by all christians throughout history that the bible dictated a women's role (submit to man, quiet in church) and whenever secular efforts for women's rights made such a view silly, all of a sudden the bible "didn't really mean it like that anyways." good grief!

Answer 9

that's silly, the Bible NEVER teaches that. Tell where in the Bible it says that, email me the chapter and verse please.

My wife is a career women with a degree,she works and does well in her career.

Answer 10

this is a very good question i'm gonna star it but to answer your question there are alot of people who feel that it's the man's job to bebring home the bacon so to speak although things are way different as there are many independent women