It would seem, by some recent judgment I have received it would seem that the only acceptable dating position is one woman dating one man.
I must be stupid or something. I thought that the purpose of dating was to get to know different people. I assumed that it was polygamous in nature. Marriage, so I assume, is for monogamy when one person has been chosen as a partner for life.
I am widowed tragically at 44. I am now 46 and dating more than one man. Both men know that I am not exclusive with them and while I don't rub either in the other's face, they are aware and one of them also casually sees other friends as well.
I don't think I will love again in the near future. I was totally faithful to a faithful husband for 24 years.
If I were being dishonest with these men it would be different. Am I to be alone just because I am not shopping for a husband? Is all dating meant to be exclusive? Go ahead. Hit me but please save the insults. I'm not impressed by them.
2007-01-26 12:52:13 · 4 answers · asked by Ande 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you would bother to read the entire question (if you are going to bother to type a response) I think you would see that I am a little old to be thinking of "getting married and having children". When I answer a question I have the respect to answer what is asked, not to jump in without the facts. I've been married, had my child (who is a man now, by the way) and don't think I can ever love that way again. My man put a bullet through his head and I still hurt. But I care for those I call my friends and respect them and they me. So please don't suggest that I marry. It's not the choice for every one. Why does it have to be my goal?
2007-01-26 13:19:02 · update #1
John V - you still assume I am looking for a life partner, as if that is the only reason to be with one of the opposit sex. And I see that you have answered my other question as well. What is the hangup on only one partner? I think that perhaps men, like dogs, like to mark their territory and I am just another piece of property to you. Someting to be owned and possessed which is why the idea of more than one man repulses you. I am not a sperm recepticle nor am I an object. I give and recieve respect and care. I think the idea of "just one at a time" is a question of ownership and possession. I'm so glad the men I date don't see me this way.
2007-01-26 15:03:29 · update #2
LET ME ASK U SOMETHING....IS IT THAT HARD TO DATE ONE MAN AT A TIME???? THINK ABOUT IT....U DONT HAVE TO DATE TWO OR MORE AT ONCE......JUST ONE AT A TIME UNTIL U FIND THAT FITS U BEST N WORK ON IT.....U HAVE THE POWER TO STOP DATING A GUY U AINT INTRESTED NO MORE N FIND ANOTHER TO DATE...ITS THAT SIMPLE....BUT DONT DATE MORE THAN ONE AT A TIME....
2007-01-26 13:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating doesn't have to be exclusive, people just assume it does. If it gets serious then maybe it would be better to only date one person but if you wanna meet all kinds of new guys then why not date as many as you want? As long as you tell them, I don't see a problem.
2007-01-26 20:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is the difference, apparently, for them at least. I guess they are more than just acquaintances in their minds. Men can be sooo possessive but at least you get to see how they will be in a longer term relationship. I too prefer the more than one concept in this stage of my life. Good luck.
2007-01-26 20:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Schmo from Kokomo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say dating is going through different girls and seeing who you really fall deep in love with and who the person you can live you whole life with WITHOUT cheating. marry and have kids.have a happy life.
2007-01-26 21:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by xkathiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋