I asked this lady that works with me (we exchanged compliments before, but hardly talk to each other) to hang out together. she said-"can i get back to you on that"? It's been 2 days and she didn't show up to work. she NEVER call sick. did I scare her or something? it seems strange to me that exactly after I ask her out she doesn't come to work. Should I stay away from her, or when she comes back, behave like I never even asked her out??? I'm confused. women are complicated sometimes, man! Thank you guys...!
2007-01-26 12:37:23 · 16 answers · asked by luckystrike_x007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Carolyn, your answer is excellent. you guys helped me relax and when she comes back to work, I will probably just be cool and I will not bother her. if she likes me, she can come and say that she would love to hang out with me. thanks again...
2007-01-26 12:53:20 · update #1
Be cool, its prolly coincidence. ive been in the same situation man. Just chill and dont worry about it and when she comes back, ask her about it. You obviously like the girl, so if you ignore the question first it'll just be awkward and second you'll blow a chance of anything weither you want to be her friend or more then that
2007-01-26 12:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason why she hasnt been there probably had nothing to do with u...she might have just been sick, or the reason that she said that she would get back to u is because she is having some personal problems (which also explains her not being at work...) when u see her again just ask her how she is doing and why she wasnt at work for a couple days...and if u feel a connection, then ask her out again...its worth a try right?...
2007-01-26 20:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That IS interesting. Hmmm. IWhen she comes back to work just act concerned and say, "Are you OK? We missed you yesterday."
You will be able to tell that very day if she is avoiding you or not.
That's because she will either have a good reason for not showing up or she will be kind of disinterested in you.
Maybe she had a good reason for not showing up at work. You'll have to find out and watch how she responds to you. If she avoids you, she's not interested. If she appologizes, you may have a shot at her.
Good Luck.
2007-01-26 20:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why I never date guys from work or school. People are odd and do the strangest things. Act like you never asked her out. It sound like she isn't coming back to work if she didn't call in though. Maybe you did scare her and if you did she has some massive problems anyways.
2007-01-26 20:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by hstoic01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax. It is probably a coincidence that she isn't there. However, by the answer that she initially gave, I would think that she is not that interested in hanging out (sorry). Just play it cool and if she is interested she will make it known to you.
2007-01-26 20:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by Carolyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible that she knew she wouldnt be comming to work for a few days so she couldnt give u a an answer yet. she may also me be seeing someone else & doesnt want to give u an exact date yet due to other obligations or whatever....i doubt she stayed out of work b/c of you. if it was that serious, why did she ever even engage in any conversation or exchange of compliments w/ you? i doubt her missed days had anything to do w/ u.
2007-01-26 20:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by Johnnie's cash🌴🌙☂✈ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hardly talk to her, you don't know if she had already scheduled time away from work. "Can I get back to you" means "I don't have the guts to say no, so I'll try to be nice and hope you take a hint".
Behave like you never asked her out- be polite and professional.
2007-01-26 20:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should approach her and explain that you didn't mean to make things uncomfortable by asking her to hang out, but tell her to forget the whole thing and stick professional. We women can be a little complicated at times.We don't like to hurt peoples feelings. So let her know that it's alright that she didn't want to go out.
2007-01-26 20:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer she gave you sounds like an indirect way of saying no or maybe she wants to consult her friends first or maybe just think about it which means she is unsure.
If I were you I would let her get back to you - I wouldn't bring it up until she does. Just be cool about it like its no big.
2007-01-26 20:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure we women can but complicated, but trust me so can you guys. :)
I wouldn't automatically assume that you scared her off; she could actually be sick or have a sick relative. Why don't you wait until next week and see how things go. Could she possibly be seeing someone and is conflicted (because there could be some atrraction to you)?
2007-01-26 20:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by msyoki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋