I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. When my boyfriend and I met he had just (1 year earlier) come out of a nine year relationship. His ex left him for his best friend and they are now married he's still bitter.
Our relationship has gone well, no fights, love eachother, respect eachother and give freedom. We've taken things slow, easy going. He asked me about moving closer to him about 6 months ago. Then I decided I was going to make the move, because we both wanted it. We aren't going to live together until we get used to living close.
All of a sudden he's freaking out, not sure if is what he wants but last month he said he needed me to move there and be closer to him. I'm ready to move in 4 months, have a great opportunity there. I don't know what to do? I don't want marriage, I haven't pressured him about living together, I just want to be closer, he knows this!
I don't understand why he's freaking out, what changed? Anyone have advice.... Guys??? Help!
2007-01-26 12:31:30 · 6 answers · asked by Randomblina >^..^< 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're planning to move and have a great opportunity, his ambiguity won't matter. Do what's in your own best interests. If he ends it because he's freaking out, let him. I don't think I'd have too much patience with a man who was freaking out by my moving closer-- is he hiding something or someone?
2007-01-26 12:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy but of course he would freak out over this. All of a sudden the person whom he loves is going to see him and be with him. I guess you could say it's complicated but my suggestion is if you have a great opportunity wherever he is then take it. Don't plan your life according to him. If he says he doesn't want to be with you then oh well. You'll find someone better anyways!! Move and enjoy life with or without him. Also if you move you might see him places and show him what he lost lol.
2007-01-26 20:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by cute_chica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Communication is the most important thing. You should not be asking us, but be asking him. (Of course, asking us is fine, but asking him will probably be more helpful) Try to ask him calmly and clearly and explain to him that it's very important that you both be honest with each other if you want the relationship to succeed. I had a long distance relationship for a year and now I live with my wonderful boyfriend and we are discussing marriage. The thing that saved us was communication. Talk to him is the best advice I can give you. =) Good luck and I hope it works out for you and yours.
2007-01-26 20:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by ixibreedingevilixi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move for the job opportunity but not for the guy, because he doesn't sound stable
2007-01-26 20:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i believe that maybe thathe is becoming unsure bout himself like what to to change or what to expect from you......or he could have just brokeup we the girl was with for you
2007-01-26 20:59:13 · answer #5 · answered by chaosshade16 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not gonna work out
2007-01-26 20:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by κύριος κτίστης 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋