Why is it that as you become older, women and men repeat the same cycle and stages that people talk about?

Question

i know my question doesnt make much sense but I remember seeing guys complain about how the girl constantly needs attetion and the guy wont give it or how the guys play videogames all day and stuff like that. Now Im not saying EVERYbody turns out like that but marriages dont last that long anymore and sometimes I feel like when your in a serious realtionship or in a marriage, you almost have to learn to be single again to give the other person space. When your a teenager your rebellious with your parents and as you get older you go through so many different stages...why does everybody have the same problems even when you dont want to? Or just why do you become sombody you dont want to be?

Answer 1

History repeats itself.......over and over again. You're going through the same stuff as your parents did.

Answer 2

Amazing question, more people should ask this.
Life is a cicle and certain things will be repeticous but,never change who you are unless there are things that need an adjustment. If so, make them only to improve yourself, that's ok.
Marriage still can and does last, I'm now going on my 24th yr. and our love only has grown deeper. We feel so connected to each other , it almost feels like he's a part of myself.
Look for the right foundation, it starts there. I happen to believe in God and we share this together, (hope you do too) A relationship is, give and take, understanding, put you're lover ahaid of you, share mutual interrests, laugh together etc...
Find one that believes in above mentioned and you'll find happiness. Dont settle for less, ever.!! It's 50/50 or 100/100
So, stay true to yourself and take a stand, its not easy but the payoff is grand!!

Answer 3

Because many times we as kids take on what we learn from our parents or the people that was closest to us. I think when we come to the reality that there is a trait in us that we don't like then we began to work that behavior out of us, putting more positive things in the place of those not so attractive ways. That's mainly what it is. I remember watching my mom being 5'2 and really could curse with the best of them and she didn't' take no mess from nobody. As I grew up I got the same reputation, I was a nice person until someone crossed that line and then it was on.... You might as well call 911,EMT and the fire fighters I would be that angry and would fight anybody. I learned that from my mom, without noticing that I had learned it, Now i work daily trying to change those things about me. It's been hard, but it's also fun seeing a change in my behavior. Well my mom is still that way, she see no harm in her actions, but I thank God for the freedom. It's all in what you learn from others...

Answer 4

sometimes its easier to stay in the same old rut then it is to try and change.
people who are overweight for instance, they know they don't like being overweight but it is easier to just go ahead and eat than to exercise, eat smaller portions or take actions on how to learn to eat right.
some marriages do last, on may 4 we will celebrate 20 yrs. together. (don't get me wrong, its never been easy and i don't expect it to be easy, we have went through a lot together)
you don't have to learn to be single again, you just have to realize that your partner is a person in their own right and has good days and bad days and sometimes that they feel like being alone. it doesn't mean they love you any less, but just that they need to think about things on their own.