the other day i was getting ready to take a shower and she takes the rugs out if thw bathroom because she doesnt want them wet, she says that i shouldnt get out of the shower all wet and stand on the rugs. that the rugs arent ment to be wet, but hello they are shower rugs. and she wants us to live out of boxes because she doesnt want us useing her closets because she has to much stuff in them. stuff she doesnt use and probaly dont remember she has. i dont know what to do should i say something to her about this and let her know it makes me fell like a child? oh yeah im 21
2007-01-26 12:22:03 · 27 answers · asked by trint_2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we are living with her until we get our bills cought up and until we get anough money to move out.
2007-01-26 12:35:38 · update #1
well elderly people can have funny ways, its her place, so basically she can do what she likes, I suggest you and your boyfriend find your own place to live, you are certainly old enough to look after yourself ... ... ... ..
2007-01-26 12:26:30 · answer #1 · answered by melark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? Your boyfriend's grandmother is OLD. I don't mean that to say "that's what old people are like", but to say that she's lived a long time, and she deserves to have a nice house with nice things that she gets to use as she pleases and arrange as she sees fit.
It's what everyone aspires to, right? You hope to have your own house someday, where you pick the furniture and invite the people you like in, and can do whatever you want. Now imagine if fourty years or more have gone by, and you STILL don't get to have that dream, because you have a grandchild who lives in your house with his partner.
Seriously, try to see it from her side; she loves her grandson, but she likely wishes he were not living with her. You, on the other hand, are just someone he's dating -- and so she might like you, but you're an even bigger annoyance than her grandson.
You need to stop living there, seriously -- and when you do visit, bring her small gifts, talk with her for a few minutes, and apologize for being an annoyance. Also, do something nice once and a while, like cleaning up some mess you didn't make.
If you're determined to live there, remember that you're not a guest; you're a guest of a guest! You have no rights, and you need to tread lightly. If that means you don't get her nice towels wet, then don't get them wet. She's not a control freak; she's just an older woman who thought she'd have peace at her age, but instead has interlopers.
(and no, I'm not old -- I'm just empathetic.)
2007-01-26 12:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So Grannie is older and set in her ways. It's her house!! She can be like that. Maybe u need to figure out what u can do on your current budget and see if you can't find some other place to stay. If your budget doesn't allow that , you have 2 options: Suck it up and live by Grannie's rules OR hope the homeless shelter won't trip about you getting the shower rugs wet!
2007-01-26 12:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be grateful this lady lets you live in her home with her grandson. As for the rug issue, put a towel on the floor to stand on. I take my rug up too. It doesn't matter if she uses her stuff in the closet or not. It's HER stuff. If i were you, i don't think I would bring this up to her you might be living out of boxes on the street.
2007-01-26 12:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by lady_godiva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must remember that she is "old", set in her ways, head strong and I am sure she likes living independently. You are a guest in her home, you MUST respect her wishes. She is doing YOU a favor. I guarantee that if someone were living with me, they would do as I say and they would either respect my home or move on. Most older people, especially women, feel a sense of pride about their home. She probably thinks that if you live out of the boxes that you wont LIVE with her for too long. Just a thought. I probably wouldnt say anything to her, gripe at your boyfriend, he'll eventually get the idea that you need your own place, not living with grandma. If you wanna play house, better learn to support yourself. Times wont get any easier for you just because you are living with grandma.
2007-01-26 12:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by ll m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short of hitting you and your boyfriend in the head with a hammer,she doesn't want you there.She ,most likely,wouldn't mind her grandson living there.No matter what you say,it won't help,it may even shorten your time under Her roof. You guys are living together and that alone is pissing her off. Anyway if you guys want a future together, you better find somewhwre else to live. otherwise she'll turn her grandson ,eventually,against you. Don't think that can't happen. Blood IS thicker than water.Do you understand that?
2007-01-26 12:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Howdy, I'm figuring that Granny is typical in liking her own routine, her own way of doing things in her own place.
Do you or your BF pay rent/board for staying there?
That may provide you with a few more rights.
Can't your BF afford a place for you both to move out to? Does he work? do you work?
Clearly you are uncomfortable living with Granny's rules - its time to look long term and look to move out - or as a cheap option look to house-sit for other people. My wife and I did that for a year whilst our house was being built, we saved a heap on rent, and got to stay in houses that we will never be able to afford in our lives. It was a great insight in how the rich folk live!
John
2007-01-26 12:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by John & Rita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's old, and she wants to live the way she wants to live.
she has a certain way that she wants her living space to be, and you will not change her.
There is nothing you can do about it.... unless you are paying rent.
If you are paying rent, then start removing the contents of those closets because your paying for the space!
If you are paying rent, you have certain rights within your room.
If you are paying rent, start charging her storage fees on that closet.
If you are NOT paying rent- then suck it up and be grateful you have a place to sleep because with you touching her things and getting her rugs wet, you are getting on her nerves.
2007-01-26 12:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try for you and your boyfriend to get a low rent housing apartment, or live soemwhere cheap if you can afford it. From experience, old people are very good at getting what they want and manipulating people, they have had much practice at it. They are very set in their ways, and if you challenge them they challenge back. Moving out is the best option
2007-01-26 12:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you living with your bf at his grandmothers house?? You all should have your own place to live.. now stop and think about how grandma feels about you living there.. she might not express herself to you.. but im sure she feels that her privacy is no longer what she is use to..
2007-01-26 12:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP! Honey, you started off with this sentence... I live with my boyfriend at his grandmothers.
There are so many phucked up things in that first sentence that I could not even finish reading the rest of your post. You got some issues baby!
2007-01-26 12:30:01 · answer #11 · answered by huckleberry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋