I fell in love with this guy. We were very close (went out once but it didn't work out because he had issues he needed to straighten out first) After the first date didn't work we still talked and had a close friendship sometimes chatting 6-7 hours each night. He worked on his issues and the possibility of another try at a relationship came up but his response was always maybe (I didn't know this but at the time his father was battling cancer). His father sadly died and I sent him a card and offered to be there for him. He did not accept my offer went a found another girl (Amy). I sent him a letter expressing my true feelings. 4 days after he recieved the letter he ims me and says you must be happy Amy left me and he signed off not giving me a chance to talk to him. Next day I talk to him and I said why should I be happy she left you it is not like you are coming back to me and then I said to him I am no one's backup. Then he had the audacity 5 minutes later to ask me to talk
2007-01-26 12:17:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dirty to him. Does he not understand I am hurting? I mean I sent him a letter telling him that I would have given up my life for him to have his father back and how he was my hero. I mean geez he's gonna leave me for a another girl want to come back to me when it doesn't work out and even though I love him I tell him I am not second best for anyone and he thinks I would want to talk dirty to him? Guys why do you only think about sex all the time?
2007-01-26 12:19:26 · update #1
You need to forget about pursuing him as a love intereset. He obviously is not interested in you the way that you are to him. It seems he's just using you since you are always there for him. You deserve a lot better and there's someone out there who will love you the way you deserve to be loved. There's plenty of fish in the sea, so stop swimming in the pond.
2007-01-26 12:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take out your frustrations on all men. Yes, the majority of us are jerks, but some of us do make a geniune effort to be good people.
That being said, It sounds like you should forget anything romantic with this guy, right now what he needs is a friend. You need to help him get through all his rough times, and get him the help he needs, if he needs it.
He's obviously not ready for a relationship of any type, it would hurt both him and you to try to force a romantic situation on him. Just be his friend, and look to some other guy for romance.
2007-01-26 20:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by Chip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more analysis. You had 1 date with this person and talked to him a lot. That does not add up to love. You have gone overboard with this relationship. You have essentially thrown yourself at him and he appears to have no respect for you, possibly as a result of that. He probably views you as good for a quickie and that's about it. Time for you to give him the 3 fingered salute and reboot.
2007-01-26 20:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you started out as friends, you secretly fell for him he said he wasn't ready, he has issues, and you send a letter baring your soul and he sends back a message he has found some one else, , for some reason that doesn't work , and he comes back to you and comes on to you?, and you tell him you are no ones backup. What message do you need to get it , he is not into you,
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2007-01-26 20:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't show signs of caring about his feelings from what I'm reading, just about how you feel and have felt. He was and is going through some really bad stuff, yet your concern seems to be with how he treats you. If you honestly cared about him, then you wouldn't care where or to whom he turned for help as long as he was getting help. Instead, you feel that it should be you that he turns to and only you. He probably sees this selfishness in your offer to be there for him, and is pushing you away in the way he responds to you because he doesn't like it.
2007-01-26 20:30:25 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
their feelings are just not the same as ours. I live with my boyfriend, we moved in together fast, now we have been together for over 1 and a half years. I know he loves me, sometimes I swear he loves me more than I love him, and yet he isn't romantic, and "guy stuff" excites him very much which can make him seem to forget about me. That's just how they are, it doesn't feel good.
2007-01-26 20:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by h.marieh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think it is all...because maybe u have met the wrong ones...
but truley once u find that one in a million that u can count on...u will start viewing the problem as some...and not all...men don't care..
2007-01-26 20:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by La'Grange 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some do others do not.
You need to find out what type they are
2007-01-26 20:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not all guys are dum like that... at least i hope not
this one doesnt sound worth it for you to suffer though
2007-01-26 20:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur wrong i care very much about my friends feelings....guys and girls.
2007-01-26 20:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by mr_fury666 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋