There was a girl i liked for the longest time, we were friends for awhile. She was just a flirt for the longest time and knew how i felt, she just recently had a rough end with her boyfriend and then came running back to me saying she loves me. I turned her down, i didnt like the idea of being her second, or third choice after she had me on a string for the longest time. But i'm left with the thoughts of whether i've made the right choice. What do you think?
2007-01-26 11:47:19 · 26 answers · asked by Aniatario 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should have got some first.....then move on.
2007-01-26 11:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by snowsnake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure. I think you should really think about it. If we all stayed with our first choice there would be no divorces in the world. Sometimes it takes a while to figure out how you feel about a person. Face it. If you date her and it doesnt work out, then you end it and you are right back to where you are now. But, if you never give it a chance, you will always wonder if you gave up a lifetime of happiness. Maybe you should talk to her and find out what her reasons were. Maybe she didnt feel she deserved you to begin with and was actually settling for less when she dated the other guy. I say give it a chance.
2007-01-26 12:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by lady_daizee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance. It's not her fault she was in a relationship already and didn't want to cheat on the guy. It shows she's loyal and honest, so I'd say she's a pretty good person. And you might be a little egotistical to think of yourself as her "second or third choice." Relationships don't work in rank order, and no matter who you date, they will probably have dated someone before you and will date someone after you. Get over it.
2007-01-26 11:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by desernay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one, did you like her when she was dating someone? If so, that was a mistake so learn from that if you liked her just don't tell her. Girls always do that - turn guys down and play them but then when they get hurt they run back to the guy who was there from the start. I would just give it time...tell her she had a chance and blew you off so what makes you think that she truly likes you and isn't just hurt and looking for attention and on the rebound? If after a good amount of time (a few months for example), she still likes you then I guess she truly does, but who knows you could start dating and she gets bored and goes to another guy.
2007-01-26 11:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could give her a chance and see if it really does work out...but if you see signs of her running back to her ex's when the 2 of you have problems..then get out...
I went through this for 4 years...only to be told a week ago..that he loves both of us and doesn't know what to do. We were getting married in 3 months.
It's all up to you..and depends on what you can handle for love. SOme things will never change. I wish I'd never allowed myself to be second best personally!
2007-01-26 11:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Starla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say from a female point of view that you made the right choice. If she had a valid explanation however my thoughts might change but for right now my question to her would be why now and what changed. Sounds to me though she is using you as a rebound and it wouldn't last long if it is.
2007-01-26 11:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lil Ang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did. Girls can get desperate when they get broken up with. Be friends with her for a while, and let her sort out her feelings. After a while (a couple months) just see how it goes. Ask her on a casual date if she's still interested. But as far as I'm concerned, you made the perfect choice.
2007-01-26 11:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Catherine H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the right choice. I would have told her that I'd be there for her as a friend, but not as a rebound. If she still feels like she loves you in two months when she's past the initial "cling to anything" phase, then I'd consider dating her.
2007-01-26 11:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess........ you should let her know why you turned her down.When you say this she probably will have a great response and also dont forget that Dont let your dreams down just see what she says and I think you kinda made a great choice include that give some time like 1 week or 2 before you guys talk more and ask her how she feels now.!
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2007-01-26 11:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could go either way. However, since she just broke up with someone she could be on the rebound. I would say that you made the right choice but to give her another chance once the break-up isn't so fresh.
2007-01-26 11:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by techs_hate_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! It is way to soon for her to be with anyone right now, and you would of ended up being the rebound guy...You made a great choice
2007-01-26 11:53:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋