my stepdaughter is telling me "get out the house and i hate you and when you sleep one night your going to die!"
2007-01-26 11:39:48 · 8 answers · asked by duhbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk to your husband,he needs to know this. you have to be careful too. you and your husband need to make her to understand that she needs to respect you even if you are just the step mother.
2007-01-26 13:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by ana u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, the father and this child all need to sit down and discuss what it is about you that she fills threatened about. Her father and you need to make sure that she knows that you are not there to become her mom, you are there as a friend for her. You should leave the majority of the discipline to her father so she doesn't "hate" you. Try to find things that you too have in common and make a day for just the two fo you. Also make sure she has time alone with her father...its hard being the step parent but if you truly love the family you can do it.
2007-01-26 11:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would first confront your husband about this to make sure he understands what is going on. Give him the opportunity to put his foot down and put her in her place. Make sure she understands that this is YOUR house and you are not leaving and she is not to disrespect you ever! If he fails to do it immediately you tell him that you are going to take matters into your own hands. You then tell her about respecting you, this is YOUR house and I would tell her that you have informed the police about her threats and should she every repeat them or give you cause to think she will act, you will have her arrested (and do it). Hold your ground, she is just a child who is way out of line. Demand respect and accept nothing less.
2007-01-26 13:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her father. And maybe get her out of the house if she has a history of violence. You all really need to talk because girls are really attached to their father no matter if you're the step mother or birth mother. They evenually became closer to Daddy because in his eyes she'll always be Daddys Little Girl. But a mother is trying to prepare her for Womanhood. So try to let them have their special moments together without including youself sometimes.
2007-01-26 12:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by lil Trouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband say about it? does he know? talk to him and have him sit her down in front of you so he can set her straight, if that doesn't work tell her that you will report her threats to the police and if anything should ever happen to you she'll be the prime suspect.
While at it also remind her that it is your house too and if she can't respect you or your rules then she should be the one to get the hell out.
2007-01-26 11:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and tell her that you are not trying to replace her mom, that you want to be friends. and that you care for her. but if that don't work maybe you should talk to your husband, and tell him what she said, or if she threatens you again call the police if nothing else happen . you have to think of your safety. good luck.
2007-01-26 11:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband about this? It sounds like she needs to go for counseling. I would be very careful if I was you.
2007-01-26 12:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to watch The Shining then tell you that.
2007-01-26 11:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋