A third time. Let me try this again. I am 21 and my professor is 31 (do not comment on age because it's not an issue with me). I know I should wait until after the semester, you don't have to tell me otherwise. It's not a crush. I'm in love (and he's not married). I've known him for almost 2 yrs. How can I tell if a man, one whom is expected to act professional in his field, might be even a LITTLE BIT interested or attracted? Sometimes when we make eye contact and smile, he walks over. He probably isn't interested, but sometimes I get LITTLE vibes he may take some sort of interest, but I could be wrong. What signs can I look for? I feel dumb for asking, but I am a serious and very introverted person and need some tips on noticing certain signs (even things he may do subconsciously). I am not the sort to tell him how I feel, nor will I ask him out. If he was truly interested, he'd ask me for coffee.
Mature advice please. What do I look for? Even for future reference?
2007-01-26 11:39:23 · 5 answers · asked by jillvaughn000 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
You could wait until after he's not your teacher anymore, then call him up and just ask him for help with something...act like you're just calling him because he was your professor and you need help. Then, when you stop by, or you two meet, you can talk to him, ask how he's doing, even flirt a little. Hopefully, he'll stop trying act professional and loosen up a bit. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 11:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Mariah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not ask you out for coffee regardless of how interested he is. Ethically an individual in a position of power (which a professor is) should never ask a subordinate out. Legally he could get into trouble if he did.
You should also consider how little you actually know about this professor, that you might trully love him, or you might not even like him once you spent time outside of class with him.
It is very difficult to balance a relationship that started with one of the individuals in a position of power.
2007-01-26 11:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Google someone named Pepper Shwartz. That's not the correct spelling of her last name, but you can find her. She teaches at the University of Washington and has written a ton on human sexuality and what to look for in telling if someone is attracted to you.
2007-01-26 11:45:12 · answer #3 · answered by eschampion 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wait until after you have completed your schooling and give him a call then as his job may be on the line if he even gives you a little attention.
2007-01-26 11:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by appylover 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do not act upon it. I know that age isn't an issue for you, but if I had a crush on someone ten years older, that would be sad for me. The society isn't forgiving and will give you dirty looks. Plus, when you're 61, I think you will want someone to remind your of your youth. A 71 year old wont do that for you. I guess if you really wanna find out if he has a "thing" for you,. you have to do it in private, during his office hours.
Or email him one day. It really would be alot easier if you weren't his student.
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Plus, if you've known him for two years, it shouldn't be that hard to talk to him. did you just know him for 2 years as a student teacher relationship? If so, then I think he's not interested in you, otherwise he would've acted upon it two years ago if you know what I mean.
...By they way, I liked what Shelley had to say.
2007-01-26 11:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by the BABY 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋