He's younger than me seems like a geek , but how do i really know he's ok. should i go alone to meet him or go with a friend. i've seen him on his cam and he's ok looking.I'm afraid of men now what do i do????
2007-01-26 11:36:25 · 13 answers · asked by seialie (pronounced sally) 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Check your sex offender registry in your area first - usually they are online. If he seems like a geek, just don't go - instincts are there for a reason.
2007-01-26 18:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are so paranoid. If you meet him in a cafe by yourself in broad daylight, you're surrounded by people so what can happen? Nothing. You're not stupid & can suss someone out by meeting them. If he makes you feel uncomfortable for whatever reason then make an excuse & leave. Get a friend to call you on your cellphone 10 minutes into the meeting so that if he creeps you out or is too geeky or whatever you can pretend you've received a call about something urgent so you have to leave. I can't see it's any different from meeting a guy at your gym or something, they're a stranger too & may not know anyone at the gym who can verify if they're a trustworthy person or not so what's the difference between meeting someone off the net or meeting someone at your gym or yoga class or whatever?
2007-01-26 13:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing your age would help here - I wouldn't make the same suggestions to a minor that I would to an adult.
If you decide to meet him, make it in a safe, public place - like a restaurant for lunch. If it'll make you feel better, inform someone you can trust of your plans - anything you can tell them about him, where you'll be, what time, etc. Have a friend call you on your cell phone at a pre-determined time to check in on you during your meeting.
If you're a minor, talk to your folks about this before you meet him. You may also want to see if you two have any mutual acquantances who can vouch for his character, in which case you'll feel more at ease.
2007-01-26 11:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by nyboxers73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to meet him, meet him in a public place and bring someone you trust to meet him with you. It could also be a good idea to mention this to your parents before you decide to meet him. I know that might feel weird, but odds are they'll have some good advice on the subject.
I would suggest that you be very careful about it, but like others have said, it can happen that internet relationships work in real life.
2007-01-26 11:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go alone, always meet in a public place, make sure somebody knows where you are going. Don't go anywhere else with him until you are certain.
My friend met his fiancee on the web, so it can happen, but there are a lot of wierdos out there.
2007-01-26 11:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always take some one with you and/or meet in a public place the first couple of times. Even though you've been talking on the internet for a while, you still don't know him. Please be careful. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-26 11:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been communicating with each other before meeting..Or you can find out if he has a criminal record if you are having fears.Tell someone who is close to you where you are going and what time you will be back.
2007-01-26 12:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by excoticgreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met several guys this way. Only one is special. You need to proceed with caution and meet in a public place.
2007-01-27 00:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on a double date, or go to a place with open space and plenty of people. This way you dont have to worry about abduction and can leave whenever you wish, also dont let him pick you up meet him there this way you will have your car readily available.
2007-01-26 11:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by nyoo1578 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go with a friend, and meet him in a public place.
2007-01-26 11:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋