How can I control my temper?

Question

How can I control my temper? I'm normaly calm but when my temper flares I'm almost uncontrolable!

Please dont NOT recomend pills or anger management they do NOT work.

COUNTING TO 10 DOESNT WORK ON ME!!

Answer 1

This is a terribly complex question that really can't be answered accurately without a comprehensive assessment of your psychological health. Impulse control problems and anger management difficulties can be part of many different psychiatric syndromes.

There are behavioral techniques you can learn to help you control these impulses and change your thinking about how you should be expressing your emotions. Treatment through individual therapy can be useful in decreasing rage, and a doctor might prescribe medication to assist in controlling your outbreaks.

If, on the other hand, you have a significant bipolar illness with manic features, or a bona fide impulse control disorder, you would absolutely require medication to be able to control these explosive episodes.

Please see a doctor to be evaluated as soon as possible.

Answer 2

What will control your temper? It's called maturity and 26 is a good time to develop some. The only control you will ever have is self-control. Lack of which causes most of the trouble we read about here in Yahoo. Practice makes perfect. The first step? own it, next time you lose your temper, catch yourself, apologize, and tell the person you are yelling at that you need a "retake", then say what you need to without yelling, cursing, or being rude. Practice makes perfect. It can be done. I've seen it. Good luck.

Answer 3

Please don't get mad at my answer as it is anger management related. All these answers are going to be as that it what you are asking for help on.

This is what I do (I feel the same way as you, fine most the time but when I get mad I explode) I step away from the situation and try and think what would make me the most happiest in the end. And the answer is not blowing up at people. It's talking it out or walking away for a while. I am an overreactor so not reacting right away helps me so much.

Good Luck with your anger. It sucks I know and everyone thinks that I can control it and i'm learning to. It's just not something I was born knowing how to control.

Answer 4

No, no pills for self control. If you have a good role model then perhaps you could possibly use them as your template. Anger is a response to a stimuli. Mostly it's either self-importance or low self-image but it all stems from "fear". You may want to look into why you might be angry (deep down). I had a little bit of a temper as a youngster. It is a deal-killer in adulthood. A good marriage cannot stand a bad temper for very long. Children will avoid adults with a bad disposition, and with good reason. Even children understand the concept of a self defeating action. The answer is to care about yourself enough to realize that you are first in deciding what is right for you but you aren't better than anyone so that they should bend to your single minded will (anger). Actually I found that anger is really rather easy to fix because YOU are in control of YOUR actions and only YOU can change YOU. Care for yourself and for those that you love.

Answer 5

I have a similar problem and there is no way you can count to 10 or anything like that. Figure out what the problem is and why it has you so angry. Is it a person making you angry? Try to talk to them calmly about the situation.

I usually try ignore it by doing something else like cleaning the house or playing video games. It takes my mind off of it. Also sleeping on it and waking up makes me feel better. I'm not as mad about it the next day.

Answer 6

Relax and let go of your control freak disposition? Likely as not you use your temper as a means and method of getting your own way.. (been there done that.. still do on occassion)

Either that or just accept that maybe the fact is you are just destined to be a Biatch... Its your choice..

But its not somthing to really worry about.. someday.. eventually.. someone will come along that wont tolerate your temper and make an attitude adjustment to you.. and then you will VERY quickly learn why you dont act like that.. and you'll turn it down (its bound to happen)

Answer 7

get away from the situation that made you mad. Find something you like to do. My mom sent me to anger management when I was 12...they always tell you to count to 10 but honestly when your pissed that doesn't work. I got a punching bag and whenever i would get mad I would go outside, put on the radio, and beat the crap out of my punching bag...it helps, but if you do something like this dont forget to wrap your hands...your wrists could hurt the next day :)

Answer 8

Sounds like it might be a learned behavior. One of your parents has an anger problem.. What causes it.. frustration.. or things beyond your control? Well.. if you aren't interested in anger management then your not that interested in controlling your outbursts.

Answer 9

Here is one for on me. Its called the 5 things you SEE FEEL & HEAR
what you do is first you name 5 things you SEE
Then name 5 things you FEEL
Then name 5 things HEAR

Then do 4 of each of them

Then do 3 of each of them

Then do 2 of each of them

Then do 1 of each of them

This is called a grounding technique it works quite well for me If you put the effort into it will work for you.

Your Friend in Recovery
Brian D
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Answer 10

THERE'S A SIMPLE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR TEMPER. IT'S REALLY HARMFUL TO BOTTLE UP ANGER. ANGER CREATES ADRENALIN WHICH, NOT USED, JUST TURNS INTO STRESS.AND STRESS IS NOT GOOD FOR YOUR HEART OR YOUR MIND. NOT THE PERSON WHO MADE YOU ANGRY, EITHER, ESPECIALLY IF YOU LET IT BUILD UP. SO, MY ADVISE IS, GO AHEAD AND LET IT OUT WHEN IT COMES.YOU'LL FEEL A LOT BETTER IN THE LONG RUN. NOT TO MENTION THE PRESENT.