my eldest son has a problem with alchohol.A year ago he lost his driving lisence, his job, his girlfriend and his will to live.After a month in prison for failing to keep a probation order he is now trying to get his life back any suggestions from a devoted mother
2007-01-26 11:15:54 · 6 answers · asked by margaret e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your "child" needs tough love. You have done all you can. Your son is making choices and is learning about consequences. He is the only person who can fix this problem.
You say this is your eldest son. Time to turn your attention to your other children who may respond to you while there is still time. Your devotion might be part of the problem that you are not seeing. If you try and help your eldest son every time he screws up....what is he learning?
Some parents try to make life easy and trouble free for a child, which has the opposite effect. Children must learn to make mistakes and repair the damage themselves.
There is alcoholics anonymous.....a very tried and true program that has helped hundreds of thousands of families. Let your son find his way through AA and the legal system. You could look into Alanon, which is a support system for family members.
Learn the serenity prayer. Recognize that there are things you can't change.....your son has to make some changes all by himself.
Good Luck!
C-F
2007-01-26 11:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son to attend AA meetings........Maybe you should come with him to his meetings to give him support.
Tell your son to get a sponsor at his AA meetings.
Continues to show your love and support for him. He needs it eventhough he tries to hide his motions. This is very hard for him , he needs all the support and positive that he can get from the family.
BE STRONG FOR YOUR SON<>
2007-01-26 11:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by solitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cousling, church,my daughter had drinking problem when she was in her teens, i had to put her in rehab twice, it really didn't work, what finally worked but wont for your son, she got pregnant, that, birth of my grandson saved her life,and now shes in college for nursing and has a little girl to.just be there for him, try to build his confidence and seek some council for him, someone to talk to, but church really does help.i wish you all the luck in the world,good luck and god bless
2007-01-26 12:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to learn from this, he's experienced where it's gotten him. Is that the way he wants to live the rest of his life? The choice is his.
2007-01-26 11:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get thee to Alanon. They are the folks who have been in exactly the same spot you are in now! They can share with you what they have done, what works, what doesn't.
2007-01-26 11:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bob H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
church and AA.
doesnt seem like much but these really are the best things you can do.
most importantly though NEVER give up hope, once you do that, he can never come back.
2007-01-26 11:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋