Be honost please,
I know a woman who is recently divorced, she is very good-hearted. However, her marriage was really hard on her & she went from being a very good-looking lady to a very heavy woman that didn't think very much of herself. She finally has let go of the past & is turning into a positive happy person again. She is working on her weight, but still doesn't believe any man would possibly be attracted to her. She met a man who flirts with her, & she'd like to go out for drinks sometime with him, but she is afraid to make the first move. I tell her go ahead ask him out, but she thinks that his flirting is just him being nice to the fat lady. I think she's just afraid to get hurt again, but she is doing such a great job of losing the bitterness & being genuinely happy, I want her to have fun. Would asking him out just be setting herself up to get burned? or am I wrong & there are guys out there that would overlook her weight?
2007-01-26 11:14:18 · 6 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are some guys that will overlook weight issues. Sadly, they are few and far between. Keep encouraging her to enjoy life, and she will be happier for it. She can also simply ask for a plain date... a movie date as friends. This can help be an ice breaker if there is time to discuss the movie over coffee afterwards. Remind her that all good things come with time. Good luck.
2007-01-26 11:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by Unforgiven Shadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are meant for eachother then there's no question of it. If he's really into her he won't worry about her weight. It probably wouldn't even slip into his mind. If he's flirting, then I'd say he's definitely interested. I wouldn't flirt with someone that I wasn't in to.
If she has let go of the past then she won't be thinking about whether or not she can trust this guy with her heart. If they are both into eachother then there's no question about any of this.
2007-01-26 11:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to have someone else ask him about how he feels about her, in a covert way. He might just be friendly. And, if she asks him out, she will be hurt. She needs to know before she acts.
I am not attracted to fat women. But, my best female friend is fat and she is like a sister to me. I am friendly to all and that could be mistaken for flirting.
I wish her the best.
2007-01-26 11:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by FDR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are guys out there that would see past weight. There are some guys who even prefer heavier girls. Your friend will be fine, just tell her to keep working out. Working out will boost her confidence.
2007-01-26 11:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like my last 3 ex-gf's, (all divorced, overweight,...)-I can't expect a "model" with the life I have, & I don't expect her to be the best looking, it's all on the "inside" that counts. but yes I'd date her, the thing about these women is they assume their dates will hurt them like their ex's,(yes I understand.) they can be more jealous,etc. but I'm use to it.-maybe that's why I'm still single...but good luck
2007-01-26 11:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are plenty of guys that would date her because she is heavy --- and there are plenty that will look beyond the externals --- so let her know that she will find someone who cares for her and will love her for who she is --- my best wishes
2007-01-26 11:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋