also how would you feel if you're man says that he has a weight requirement? do you feel it to be neccessary to keep up appearances for your boyfriend/husband? I ask b/c sometimes i feel scrutinized by my boyfriend even though he says it's not like that, but I feel like if he sees one flaw then he's not going to be attracted anymore, maybe I'm tripping but I'm the type of person who wants a nice looking man but I look more at who he is as a person and that determines whether I stay or leave him not neccesarily his flaws
2007-01-26 10:58:24 · 14 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, just think. if a man ever breaks up with you because your looks just don't do it for him, he's not the man you want to be with. a real man would love you for who you are and wouldn't care about how you looked. but just for everyone sake, and yours, don't become a 300 pound woman with a stache k?
2007-01-26 11:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that the problem is that society is much more judgmental on the way a woman looks that the way a man looks, for an example George Clooney has so many lines on his face, and he is going Grey, and yet he is still seen as a sex Symbol, and yet I personally think he is well past it, because if a woman has that many line on her face she would be considered past it. Unfortunately for a woman to be attractive, it is still believed that she must have a flawless face. Whereas an attractive man is seen as a powerful man. This attitude stems back to when women had no economical power, but thankfully things are changing slowly as women have more economical rights, so the way a man looks is becoming as important as the way a women looks, as now 1in 3 women in their 30s and 40s is married to a younger man.
If you feel pressurized to look good by your boyfriend, maybe you should put the same pressure back on him, and then he will realizes what he is doing to you, because the way men look these days is very important too. If I had a boy friend I would do the same as I am doing now, just go to the gym and keep fit and healthy looking, but as far as cosmetics is concerned, no way its unnatural and it is only a veneer. So don't forget to look out for Grey hairs on his head and see if he has any wrinkles coming through, buy him anti aging cream for his face and hair dye to get rid of the Grey hairs, I think then he will stop scrutinizing you, because he will feel that he is being judged. If your attractive boy friend only wants a woman for the way she looks, he is very shallow and not worth having, because people blossom with age inside but outwardly their can be a slight deterioration over the years. You should marry a man who wants you regardless on how you look, because then you have a more stable future with him.
2007-01-26 11:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make it work you will do certain things to satisfy your man. If he is an extremist then you can find some one who like you the way you are and he can find a girl who fits his "ideal description". I personally love to wear sexy lounge wear around the house. Not necessarily having my butt out all the time but "eye candy" for my man. I love to smell sweet and soft with a fresh pedi every 2 wks. My nails look very natural. Just because you wear acrylic doesn't mean you have to wear them sculpted bulky. I bidette after moving my bowels. I keep my bikini area very trimmed and the rest of my body is free of hair. I wear hairstyles that look good even after rolling around in the bed a little. Nothing hard or greasy.
2007-01-26 11:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I make sure that I keep the figure I had when I was younger. I exercise and maintain a great shape. I keep myself clean and make sure I keep in tip top shape from head to toe. I'm not a 'freak' in beauty maintence but I do a good job with what I have.
That is only what I do for myself and not for anyone else........mind you. I would not do anything that a man would ask
me or tell me that I would have to do for him as far as weight wise. They take me as I am.........beauty or not........... :)
2007-01-26 11:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by So_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gay too. Of course that man will attract me. I'm like that too!! Except maybe I probably don't make as much as he does. I'm not a baby though I can handle myself. He there most of the time would be great though. But I don't need your money!! I'm not a gold digger, I'm a love digger!!
2016-03-15 00:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COME ON EVERYBODY, GET REAL. Looks are very very important to men. If he says he has a weight requirement, he is just being honest, and giving you a hint. My bf said that he would not tolerate it if I gained significant weight. I did in fact gain some weight, but I got a personal trainer and now I look better than ever. You should do the same. Life isnt "fair." Just accept that, and go with it.
(I recommend strenth training with weights, and the Zone diet.)
www.zonediet.com
2007-01-26 11:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds a little unhealthy. What's a weight requirement? Are you like luggage or something?
Yes, I keep up my appearance by staying fit, wearing decent clothes and doing my face/hair because I feel good about myself when I do, and I know my husband likes it when I feel confident. My husband sees many flaws in me, and I know he loves me anyway.
2007-01-26 11:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt any one thing you ca do to make him attracted to you. if he says he has a weight requirement then he means he doesnt want a big woman but all you can do is try to make him happy. make him see that you like him and if he truly loves you back then all the other stuff shouldnt matter.
2007-01-26 11:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
weight requirements are not good. it means he is shallow. he should accept you for who you are and love you for who you are not what you are. i tell my girlfriend that i love her no matter what. i adore her for her eyes and lips and also because she lets me know how much she loves me all the time. be yourself and tell him that if he loves you he should accept you for who you are. be strong and ask him if you wanted him to lose wight and keep in shape if he would do it? if he answers, its different because im a man. seriously get rid of that chauvinist pig.
2007-01-26 11:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks should not matter the most. so if he is with you in the first place obviously he likes you for your looks (and more...) but keep it up and dont worry so much. just be yourself. if you really want to change it up a little try a new hairstyle or something but dont think you have to change for him if thats the case get out of it before it gets bad
2007-01-26 11:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by grassyork56 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋