I don't know what to do, I adore (Not I adore in I think he so nice, but adore as in love him) my brother's best friend. His name is Kirby and we always hang out, mostly me and him cause my brother went off to college. We always have fun together no matter what we'll do. And we're always together, but this last week he stopped coming around. I tried calling him but he avoids my calls. I don't understand though because the last time I talked to him we were at this party and we left at 2 a.m. and of course my mom wasn't home so he came in, but we didn't do anything but kissed alot. And before he left he told me he loved me and that he always has, I have waited for him to say that for four years......But then he stopped coming over and calling. Maybe he got caught up in the moment and didn't mean what he said. What do I do, I really love him and it's killing me that he doesn't want to be with me no more. Please help.
2007-01-26 10:51:41 · 12 answers · asked by Googley_Moogley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well give him time im having the same problem only a little different but just give him time
2007-01-26 10:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible he truly cares about you BUT he probably values his friendship with your brother and feels guilty about what he said and did. For some, there is an unspoken rule that you do not get involved with a best friend's sis or brother. If this is so, I hope you will respect his values.
If you got involved and it didn't workout, it may affect his friendship with your brother. Perhaps he is not willing to take that chance.
In any case, I do hope you get a hold of him so you can discuss this maturely. It is best to get things out in the open. If you get the chance to talk about it, you both might come up with making the whole situation work.
Good luck!
2007-01-26 19:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBearKnowzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough and very frustrating!!! It seems like after guys admit to loving/liking a girl they start to avoid them. I think sometimes they are scared of getting into a relationship or they start thinking that it's going too fast. I think you should wait a while (not too long) before trying to contact him and then you should start calling every once in a while. If he won't answer maybe you just have to go to his house and talk to him face to face. Good luck!
2007-01-26 19:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do love him go to his house, leave hime messages, do WHATEVER IT TAKES. Trust me, he is probably shy and when shy people say something so personal it tends to scare us away. DOnt let him go if you do love hime. He is only afraid that you dont feel the same way and doesnt want to be rejected. If you keep calling and leaving messages he will come around faster just dont let up. Wait at his house would be the best thing...i think. If you can "trap" him somewhere then you'll have him and just tell him how you feel. hope things work out and remember dont let him go.
2007-01-26 18:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by ROBERT R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have said stuff that he regrets now... Have you tried to send him and email or letter of something? Say something like "please read!!!" in the subject line.. and then tell him you miss hanging out, and you're wondering what's going on... He might feel weird because you're his friend's sister... Or maybe there's and age difference he's feeling weird about (I'm not sure how old he is and how old you are... so this may or may not apply..) so if he's older he may feel like he's taking advantage of you or something..
Try however you can to get in touch with him and hopefully you'll hear back from him!
Good luck!
2007-01-26 18:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by yogastar02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesnt want your brother to get mad at him,I suggest you ask your brother to help you out,cause its different when its man to man talk,,,I guess he meant what he had said to you,its just there is something thats bothering him,or he just need some time to think if what he did is right
2007-01-26 18:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either what you said is right, he said it at the heat of the moment and he didnt mean to, or he talked to your brother about his feelings about you and your brother wasnt really happy about it so he just backed off
2007-01-26 18:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by u_luv_mee_mee_4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably doing some stupid guy thing -- "ooh you are my best friend's sister i should not go out with you" --- if he wont even talk to you there is not much you can do
he is just being, i would say, stupid, if you can confront him face to face it will be a lot more difficult to brush you off and you may be able to get an answer from him
2007-01-26 18:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you he said it with feeling then there is a chance he loves you . go to him , look at him right in the eye and ask the question , (DO YOU FEEL THE SAME WAY I DO. I LOVE YOU . I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART)
that should do it
good luck
2007-01-26 18:59:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool but be receptive to him talking to you. You cannot figure this out until he is ready to talk. Dont come on all needy if possible.
2007-01-26 18:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋