ok this is it, i really do hate them!!!?

Question

if u read my last question titled "im mexican and they hate mexicans and they are my adoptive parents" u will see wats wrong

ok so today my sisters ashleigh and my sister emileigh are having a party, so its at my house so im thinkin im gonna be here and some of my friends can come, well, guess wat?, i have to stay up stairs cuz some of their friends dont feel safe around mexicans, bones (our dog) can stay done stairs and i cant, it makes me feel so bad, its like bones is their daughter and im the dog, ill post my other question so u can read and see exacally is goin on here.

ok so my parents adopted me from Chiuahua Mexico when i was 3 years old, my name used to be Lupita, but they changed it to Analyn, they are white and im mexican and i obviousely stand out from my sister Ashleigh and my sister Emileigh, they have blond hair and blue/gray eyes, well when my family is over at my house(which is all the time) they talk about how mexican men should only be mowing lawns and mexican women should only be for making more mexican men and ****** white men. i get REALLY offended and they say im over reactiong and thay im only imaginig the things they say, they have these friends hate me soo much and when they have guest over im not allowed 2 come out of my room if they dont like mexicans, Ashleigh and Emiliegh can come out and EVEN the Bones(our dog) can come out. they get mad when i speak spanish and i cant stand them, my sisters friends laugh at me, and when i was little i was playing with my sisters doll and she said......

"Lynnie my toys dont like dark people"

and then the only person who is nice to me is my oldest sister Kaileigh but shes in collage in Michigan and only comes to iowa a few times a year, they wont even let me celebrate Cinco De Mayo!!!

my dad says that im over reacting and so does my mom. and my sisters friends always say Ay chihuahua thats how they mock me.
oh and im 13, so i cant be emancipated from them till im 15.

it jist kinda put me over the edge cuz i wanted 2 go wit my sisters to the movies but they said they were afraid that they would get shot if they were with me at night,
ashleigh is 15 and emileigh is 16

lived with my real mom and dad till they were robbed and killed and i was sepereted from my older brother Emilio hes 17 now but i only no his name and his birthday i dont no where he is.

my bf isnt allowed to come over because hes black cuban and they said they dont allow N****s in their home, they said that i cant marry a white boy cuz then my kids would be messed up because they would be 1/2 upper class and 1/2 dirt class, all my friends are blak cubans and they get mad cuz since they cant come in, we bring a radio outside and some spanish music and dance and then my sisters came and they tried, thats the funniest thing i've ever seen, my friends cuss my parents out in spanish and its funny. one time they chaparoned for a feild trip and my whole group was mt cubano friends and they were scared and some of them dont speak english which really pissed them off, and my sisters just staired at us cuz we were talking so fast they couldnt understand us(the take spanish in school, but when they speak it its toatly fine with my parents) they make me wear like abercombie and holister and i wanna wear Paco,Rocca wear and stuff like that they say im ghetto cuz my .....

friends are black cubanos

i hate wearing abercombie and holister cuz like all the clothes are made of spandex and i have a butt and my sisters are jelouse LOL but everybody doesnt need to see it, ya no, i mean they REALLY male me wear it, i swear to you i dont own i pare of jesns all my pants are like Hard Tails and like my sisters can wear jeans and my sisters wont go shopping with me cuz they say i like to many "black people stores" i guess they mean like mr.alans,foot locker((they say thets a black people store)) and places like that, im not "ghetto" i dont say yall i am very smart and im fluent in 3 languages((english.spanish, and japanes)) ooh they hate it when i go to places that are "ghetto" cuz they r scared and some of my friends live there so we walk and go to their homes and when they have to come pick me up they get scared LOL!! i used to have white friends, but the little b*i*t*c*h*e*s got scared of my cubano friends and left me, isnt thqat a shame((im not calling all white people b*i*t*c*h*e*s))

you gotta go to detroit for mr.alans, cuz when i went their 2 go vist my Me Mau((gramma, they make me call her that stupid name)) she calls me that Pretty little taco maker, lol, im used to that kinda stuff from them but they r just horrible racists!!!

Answer 1

You really should talk to your school counselor about these issues.

Answer 2

well from what you said I think that your whole adoptive family is racist, and how in the world they ever was able to adopt you without those issues coming out is beyond me. Being 13 I know it has got to be hard to be different from the people who are suppose to be family.
Is there a counslor at your school? If so talk to them, explain how you feel and what is going on at home ask for intervention at home,If your family attends church go to your priest/preacher/pastor and see if you can get some help there.
There is no reason that these morons that call you family should be putting down your ancestry and not expect you to resent it and have some bad feelings. Sounds to me like the family could use some family counseling and maybe learn to be more tolerant of outher cultures and beliefs.

Answer 3

So, I'd have to ask you what motivated your adoptive parents to adopt you into their family in the first place?

First, accept that your adoptive sisters have no relevance in your current situation. Sadly, they don't sound like particularly kind, or intelligent teenagers, but they are not your problem.

The buck starts and stops with your parents.

Back to my question. It seems illogical, to me, that two adults who appear to tolerate racism in their own home, from their biological children toward their adoptive child, would have the courage to choose to adopt a child of color in the first place.

I agree that the most important thing you can do is take your parents aside and ask them simply why they chose you to adopt? And, it's perfectly ok for you to expect a straight answer from them. Keep the conversation calm, but keep asking for a clear and true reason why they chose you to become their child.

This isn't a Cinderella story. You have the right to speak up for yourself. No matter what your parents say, stay focused on who you are--a child of color but a child. Period. You have a long, full life ahead of you and you can choose to keep your adoptive family or leave them behind. Just commit to not being a victim. No matter how you're treated, you can still be you--wonderful, kind, smart, full of life and all that will benefit you in the life you choose to live when you leave home.

I wish you luck and courage.

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Answer 4

Sweetheart what you're going through is really horrible right now...but there's not a lot that can be done I'm afraid...yes you could report all this to someone in authority but then you could get removed from your family & end up in a place far worse than this.
I had an equally [albeit different] awful up-bringing, but trust me it doe's come to an end & you'll soon enough be old enough to move out...your "sisters" sound like jealous little bit*hes & your parents...well...I only have one side of the story so it's wiser I don't say any more.
Just keep holding on...you sound pretty strong to me..sorry Babe, but you'll come through this....you need to go for help like at school & speak to someone you can trust....

Answer 5

My goodness.

How long until you are old enough to move out?

Go to college away from home, in a large city where people are more used to ethnic diversity. You just need to be around much more accepting people and get away from that toxic environment - and never go back!

Answer 6

omfg thats HORRIBLE. i would NOT stand for that kind of abuse!! you do realize that no matter what they say or think, they are being verbally abusive to you by putting you(your heritage) down like that?? not to mention that is UNbelievaby racist!! listen, if they wanna do that, fine, no one can stop them, but how DARE they do that in FRONT of you! if i were you i'd knock some f*cking sense into them and tell them all RIGHT off. you do what YOU want and don't let those mofos stop you alright?? love here.

Answer 7

Thats racial prejudice just go down stairs they probably wont make a scene in front of everybody.

Answer 8

I'm thinking why your adoptive parents are your adoptive parents! my grandchildren are Mexican American and I WOULD NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO SLUR THEM IN ANY MANNER. TALK TO YOUR FOLKS AND GET AN ANSWER

Answer 9

You should write a book.

You really need to have a heart to heart with your family.

Do it tonight.