i really like this girl but she is like my best friend if we become girl friend and boy friend it would be great but if we break up we could ruin our whole relationship and i don't want that.
2007-01-26 10:12:46 · 16 answers · asked by shorty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know exactly what you mean. I was afraid of the same thing. Me and my best friend liked eachother. For like a year. (WOW) lol. He didn't ask me out until this year, but we both didn't want to say anything because we were afraid that if it didn't work out, we would never ever be friends again. And that was like soo horrible. I was afraid that if I confessed, he wouldn't feel the same and I would have to find a different school to live that down. lol. But it wasn't like that at all. Give it a chance. Talk to her, I'm sure you're best friends for a reason. :]
And I'm also sure she's thought of you at least once as something more than a friend. Girls are like that, too, ok? Don't worry. Take your time to think of how and what you're going to tell her, but make sure you get it out. And don't wait till someone else asks her out.
2007-01-26 10:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and ask her how she feels. Be upfront and honest* If she's your best friend you should be able to talk about anything. She may have the same feelings and not want to say anything to disrupt what you have already~
Communication and Honesty are the key to a long relationship*
Just tell her that she's your Best Friend and You Don't want to ruin that but you would love to have her as your Girlfriend but don't want to lose what you have now if it didn't work out between the two of you*
Hiding your inner true feelings for her will only cause a rift between the two of you as she may come across a guy that asks her out and she may figure..you didn't want to as you're not interested in her that way.........So Be Upfront...tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels?? Go for it~* Could be the best thing ever* Take a chance in life*~ :) Keep on Smilin*
2007-01-26 10:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with one of my best guy friends. First things first you should tell her how you feel. It's going to be hard, but let her know and tell her that you'll understand if she doesn't have the same feelings. Don't risk your friendship. If you two decide to date and end up breaking up make sure that you part on good terms. If you're really good friends and you get along with each other than whatever happens won't jeoperdize your friendship. Just take things one step at a time.
2007-01-26 10:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by teenleogurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with my Best Friend now. We dodged it for like 3 years, not wanting to ruin anything but our chemistry is amazing! We're such a great couple and having that friendship background really helps!
Of course, it's always a risk so make sure this is what you want!
2007-01-26 10:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well give it a shot...if she is like youre best friend now...then when(if) u break up...she will understand u and still be youre best friend, but make sure she has the same feelings for u before u ask her out or anyhing, that also could ruin youre relationship right now
2007-01-26 10:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by liz s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should discuss it with her..... tell her you think your feelings for her may be more than just friendship..... she may feel the same, if not, you guys can agree to just stay friends.... but don't be like me, back when i was in high school, a very good guy-friend of mine kept dropping hints that he liked me (i was crazy about him, but didn't want to ruin the friendship), well, we did nothing, now to this day i still have very strong unresolved feelings for him (& i'm married to someone else) so i may never know what might have happened, i love my husband, but regret not taking the chance on the other guy, may not have worked out, but at least i wouldn't be wondering about it today..........best of luck
2007-01-26 10:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ashli B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get with her, life's too short. And if you dont want the other relationship in ruins let her know that before you begin a lover's relationship. say like "you know, we are such good friends. i dont want anything to separate us no matter what!"
2007-01-26 10:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AWWW, that means you really care about her.
So just go for it take a chance!!
If she doent want to be your friend if yall ever break up it will be her loss. And if you really like her like you say you do, then dont even think that you two would break up.
2007-01-26 10:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Kevin Jonas♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont ask her out just tell her how you feel and ask if you guys should be more then just friends and tell her that you dont want it to ruin your whole relationship. say that it is up to her.
2007-01-26 10:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lysa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the question is but I'll answer best I can. Love is worth taking a risk.
2007-01-26 10:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋