I found out the guy i was with had strung me along the whole time and used me and he moved in another co-worker into his house. I was so angry that i told everyone at work how he used me and treated me like crap. Now i've heard that people are saying he didnt force me to have sex and they are going on about the age gap. I didnt expect everyone to go on about the age thing, i wanted them to see what he's like,i'm worried things are gonna go pear shaped and people will think i'm some bitter stalker seeking revenge and the loser in it all. How would i look to you?i'm the innocent one in all this.
2007-01-26 10:11:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think the women at work would see you as a revenge seeking stalker. they would likely understand as i'm sure most of them have been involved in similar situations. the male coworkers are the ones that would say that stuff. just know that even if the guys do say stuff like that to you, it's just to preserve their own ego and control their own guilt, b/c they have likely done similar shitty things to women in the past and are just trying to justify their behavior
i remember reading this in Cosmo:
what men say: "after we broke up she went all psycho-stalker"
what they really mean: "i treated her badly and, of course, she got upset."
btw, people who do stuff like that should expect to be trash-talked
2007-01-26 10:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
innocent, maybe not so much. You started a blame game and now you are caught up in it and you are the one that is going to look bad. You are supposed to be an adult, and yet you choose to act like a little kid. You can not have it both ways, you accept responsibility for your actions, and this means learning to ask questions so that you do not get taken advantage of, And if you do get taken advantage of accept your part in the process, Because some where he heard YES, or you would be having him charged with rape and assault. so step up to the plate and be the responsible adult you are supposed to be.
2007-01-26 18:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to keep quiet about it. No matter what your opinion of what happened, everyone will have their own say of what happened. What he has done to you is mean, but it's pretty typical of what people do.
2007-01-26 18:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later these people will vent about someone. When they do, tell them you understand their anger. If they were mature, they would of understood yours. To not do that makes them look bad.
2007-01-26 18:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you got your feelings hurt but continue to be yourself and don't worry what people think of you. It's okay to cry about it when you get home but pray.
2007-01-26 18:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋