Someone who was supposed to be my best friend hurt me in a terrible way awhile back. I've been praying for help forgiving him, and I want to forgive him. But for some reason, I can't.
Serious answers only.
2007-01-26 10:01:04 · 18 answers · asked by J-Dawn 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You spent however long you've known him with love and all it takes is one act to erase all that love away...
Seems like that, it's tough. I guess you could just grow spiritually and piece by piece bring back all the reasons why you loved him in the first place then once you put the puzzle together show it to him and tell him how long it took to put it back together. Love! ♥ conquers all hatred.
2007-01-26 10:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus who? 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes you forgive the person but then you can't forgive yourself for holding on to it, or remembering it. Forgive your friend and then start acting like you have forgiven him. Treat him as though it never happened. Do things together, pray together, go to a movie or watch tv. Enjoy his company. Suddenly you'll look back and realize that the hurt is gone and it really is like your friendship was before.
2007-01-27 12:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jan P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your hurting.
Pain from a best friend can be a deep wound that may take time to resolve if at all.
I'm not suggesting you forget but try to find some forgiveness. The forgiveness is for you to be able to move on in your journey, not absolution for your friend.
Perhaps in time there can be absolution.
Look at the more positive things in your life to give you strength. Look to your family, other friends and spend time developing your relationship with your God.
I wish you peace and resolution
2007-01-26 18:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the time will heal. The only way for that to happen is to forget, ignore your friend and find something else you can do to replace the lost feeling. Stop praying, its not helping. In fact praying is just feeding it because you are remembering the event every time you pray about it.
And some of the answers you have received here are very nasty - and yet they are supposed to be from christians. To call you spiteful and vindictive is not a nice thing to say at all.
2007-01-26 21:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you want a biblical reason, continue reading. If you just want to feel good, avoid my answer altogether.
Perhaps you don't have an understanding of all that God has forgiven you. Your prayers are not answered because you are willfully disobedient right now.
I recommend that you read Matthew 18:21-35 for context. The final three verses are the most important, at least as they relate to this situation.
"Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?' In anger his master handed him over to the torturers until he could repay the entire debt. This is how my heavenly Father will treat each one of you unless you forgive your brother from your hearts." (Matthew 18:33-35)
2007-01-26 18:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you've been forgiven by Christ this is the well you draw from to forgive others. Think of the Lord's kindness and suffering in enduring the cross for you, to pay for your sinfulness. Think of how merciful He's been to you and extend that mercy and forgiveness to those who hurt you. Cry out to God in prayer to remove any bitter root of unforgivness in you, for His glory.
May God bless you.
2007-01-26 18:17:10 · answer #6 · answered by Hope 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness doesn't come as easy to us humans as it did to Jesus. We're imperfect - he wasn't. The more we've been hurt, the harder it is to forgive, which basically means, be patient with yourself as well as your friend. Forgiveness isn't always easy, but it's always the right thing to do.
2007-01-26 18:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by AKA WTA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep praying! God is there for you. When your ready you can forgive. I know it is hard to forgive and forget, but it will be worth it in the end! :-)
2007-01-26 18:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by lol 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's our nature.
You are hurting yourself by hanging on to it.
Look at it from the stand point that God created your friend too, and will forgive him. If God will, will you not?
Peace & Prayers 4 u
2007-01-26 18:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by pops 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a spirit of unforgiveness that sometimes gets a stronghold on us. Jesus talked of some spirits which will only come out by fasting and prayer
2007-01-26 18:19:34 · answer #10 · answered by martiismyname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋