Best friends for 3 years, together for 8 months. He's 30, I'm 25. He's trying to buy a house in the next 4 months and has discussed things like can I help him pay the mortgage? Here's where he would put some of my stuff, do I want to live there with him, He'd get my cubic zirconia at first until he could really get something great, he hates it when I'm not there, I'm the best GF he could ever ask for, he loves the way we are together, he's found "the one", he wants me to be the mother of his children....now, my one stipulation is that I have to be engaged before I'll live with someone again. So he knows I won't just move in....so???
2007-01-26 09:57:22 · 12 answers · asked by Dr. Kat 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI, To Violet-The amount of money spent on a ring is a stupid thing to worry about. Don't be so materialistic. Second, I'm not co-signing...I would be added to the paperwork after we actually married. Lastly, you people really know how to make something so wonderful into this rediculously negative situation! He's my best friend and I love him very much and this isn't about money or mortgages or whatever...this is about my gut telling me it's gonna happen soon and just seeing what other people think. Geez.
2007-01-26 10:12:02 · update #1
So What??!!! - Sounds like beating around the bush to me. I don't hear anything about straight up commitment... do you?
Why guess... it puts you in a confused state... I used to play the what does this or that mean... Today I just ask straight up.. "what does that mean?" and/or "What do you mean by that?"
Stop guessing or playing word games with him... ASK!
- good luck.
2007-01-26 10:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll shack up with a man for a cheap cubic zirconia ring? Those things cost under $50 and you're going to pay his mortgage??
You're being taken for a ride- get off this jerk's bus. If he's serious, he'll get your a proper ring, set a date, announce your engagement, plan a wedding and marry you before he mouths off about "mother of his children"- he's full of it.
2007-01-26 10:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you didn't specify why you only got into a relationship with him 8 months ago. if you've been best friends with someone for 3 years, i think it would dawn on you that each other could be "the one" way sooner. like, at this point it's almost as if one/both of you are "settling." even if a person is involved in another relationship, if he or she finds the "love of their life" then they break off with the current one to be with "the one."
2007-01-26 10:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that he is going to propose quickly. the reality that he's watching classified ads on engagement rings is one sign. in the past you all might turn the channel and now he's keen to computer screen it. Why the unexpected substitute, ya comprehend? He probable made that remark to you with the aid of fact he had to throw you off. Now, why he became unhappy, makes me kinda of clueless. i might prefer to anticipate that in line with danger he can no longer arise with the money for a ring like that. no longer too effective.
2016-11-01 09:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by gennusa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think he is just a great planner...not to mention buying a home is a great investment.... He knows someday, he will be married and wants to be ready.... he may be thinking it's you...but is he ready to propose now? Perhaps.... but don't count on it.
Don't over-analyze his actions..... just let it be a surprise worth waiting for.
2007-01-26 10:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is your stipulation then you have your answer.
You already made your decision long ago.
Stick with it if it is important to you.
If you find he is more important to you than your stipulation, then go for it. You can always tell him how you feel, and see if you get your engagement.
What do you have to lose?
2007-01-26 10:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by justinscggirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't think about it too much because you may be in for disappointment
2007-01-26 10:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya sounds like there is a high percentage of asking you to be his wife.
2007-01-26 10:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we cant answer this....but if he knows then I would ASSUME he will ask u
good luck and i hope u guys are happy together
2007-01-26 10:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't help him pay the mortgage, sorry ...otherwise we might think he is just using you ...
2007-01-26 10:01:54 · answer #10 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋