2007-01-26 09:48:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a 14-year-old daughter, and if she asked to have her nose pierced, I would let her. With the following provisions:
* Her grades in school would have be good (at least a 3.0 GPA) and she'd have to maintain them.
* She would have to continue to behave with courtesy and maturity.
* She would have to understand that I would expect her to behave with good manners towards people who didn't like the nose piercing and explicitly said so to her, even if they weren't behaving with good manners.
* The piercing could not interfere with her getting a job when the time came to go job hunting-- IOW, if it hurt her ability to get a job, she'd have to agree to take it out.
* The piercing would be done by a doctor in our medical group, with appropriate considerations for her health.
Piercings are not the big deal that they were when I was a kid, back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth. Frankly, as long as my daughter is getting good grades in school and progressing towards being self-supporting, and behaves with courtesy and good manners, I don't care if she wants to hang a whole hardware store on her face. It's her face, it's purely cosmetic, and it isn't an issue I'm willing to fight over as long as she gets the important stuff (e.g. grades and manners) right.
2007-01-26 11:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by Karin C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would let my fourteen year old daughter get a nose piercing. Nose peircings are not a big deal its the same as getting your ear pierced. They are a good way for teenagers to show their personality. They look very pretty with either a nice little stud or a ring.
Its the eyebrow piercings and tongue and lip piercings that worry me. I wouldnt let her get one of them as there are risks and complications.
So as long as she really wanted it and would keep it clean then I say yes. And if she ever decides she doesnt like it, she can take it out and it will close over and will only be left witha tiny tiny dimple if that.
2007-01-26 10:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as it's not disrespectful. As long as she goes to an immaculately clean piercing place, I would think it's okay. There are likely a lot of people who would question her religious standpoint, but in my religion class, we learned that God (and other religious deities) will not stop loving you as a human being just because you got your nose pierced. Your body is a temple, and as long as it's respectful, I don't see why I wouldn't stop her. I would also add an incentive or something. Ex. if you would like her to have a higher mark in school, tell her that she can have her nose pierced if she gets acceptable marks on her report card (unless she is already doing well). The only thing that I wouldn't let be pierced would be the tongue, as the risk of infection is very high and deadly. If you have any more questions, I would consider asking a medical professional as they can inform you of all the risks.
2007-01-26 10:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by HSR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got my nose peirced at 18. I really like my peircing. I only wear the little diamonds so it doesn't look outragous. My honest opinion would be for you to have her wait. The reason why is because most schools will not allow it. And if she were to leave it out the whole day the back of the peircing would close. And when you have to force it back in when it is particially closed it will more than likely get infected. They do make clear studs that you can wear at school but with my experience with the clear stubs they are not that great. Also you would not be allowed to change out the stud within I think 8 weeks after getting in peirced. Which they will not peice it with a clear stud, so unless her school would allow it then either wait until the summer or until she graduates.
TIP- if you were to allow her to get it done, I would advise to get it peirced with the stud that is shaped like an L. It fits better and it stays in better, and is also alot less painful. When I was getting my nosed peirced the guy told me that the one that is straight with the small little ball at the end is not good to peirce with. He stated that if the nose were to swell the skin on the inside of the nose can grow onto the ball and that it would have to be surgically removed.
2007-01-26 10:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by EMT_B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If she wanted to do that once she got 18 there would obviously not be much I could do, but I would refuse permission to a 14 old because there would be good chance once she got to be 18 she wouldn't want to do something that stupid.
Girls who want their noses pierced have trashy tastes rather than refined tastes. I would do anything I could to stop my 14-year-old daughter from making the choice to look that trashy and low-class in the hopes that her wish to do that were a passing (and stupid) phase she would outgrow.
Having said all that, though, even if my daughter grew up to have very different tastes than I have (and I could respect that once she was old enough) I would have less problem with a nose piercing if the decision to do it were made by someone closer to 20 years old rather than 14.
It is the role of parents to keep kids that are as young as 14 from making really stupid decisions out of being only 14 and therefore not the most sensible, solid, mature, age there is. I figure if you get your kids to be over 18 or else 20 or so then what they decide to do is what they decide to do. Before then, what they decide they'd like to do is too likely to be a really stupid thing.
2007-01-26 10:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Im not a mom. Im 14, but there are girls at my school with pierced noses. They cant even wear the ring. Only on weekends. I think its disgusting. Especially with an infection or sinuses. And 14 year old girls go to schools with out the priveldges of wearing a nose ring. I cant even get a second piercing in my ear!
2007-01-26 09:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Chritsy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not let her get her nose pierced because the hole may never close. I know they say that it will if you leave it out but that is not true. There is a chance that it will close and a chance that it won't She could be stuck with this hole in her nose for life.
2007-01-26 09:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by shane200388 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
im 17 years previous. I have been given my first piercing while i grew to become into 13, and it grew to become right into a facial piercing, my mom first mentioned NO way, yet she gave in, via fact she knew how undesirable i needed it, on the commencing up she hated it, yet she has warmed as much as them and now I even have some greater, yet they're all tastefull. She grew to become into only afraid i might look like a loopy "punk" yet i did no longer. She ended up liking them. they do no longer scar, the holes circulate away, only ensure she cleans it frequently and he or she would be able to be sturdy. i be attentive to nostril piercings could be extremely troublesome, yet a small stud ought to be fantastic if she looks after it. she would be able to be rather happy in case you enable her get it. as long as she earned it and keeps up being sturdy, you ought to enable her!
2016-09-28 00:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, fourteen years of age is not old enough to develp a self image able to make this decision.
2007-01-26 13:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by itchianna 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter got her first tatoo at 16 and hid it from us for a year. She is now an adult with four tatoos, my kids have pierced their lips, tongues, bellybuttons. I have found that it doesn' really matter what I say. My son took out all his piercings when he got his first job and he wasn't allowed to have them at work, because the job was more important to him. I say let her get it so she doesn't do it behind your back and hope she grows out of this phase.
2007-01-26 09:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋