Why is sex so important in relationships and marriages,especially sexual satisfaction,people are cheating on each other because they claim their partner can't satisfy them sexually.Doesn't personality and good character matters or the only thing that matters is good sex.If my partner is loving and faithful and good to me,i will not cheat on him if he is not good in bed,Is sex important and why?
2007-01-26 09:45:49 · 37 answers · asked by skylight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is said that in a marriage even a relationship (where the couple are having sex) it will last longer when bothe partners are happy with eachother,that means happy with every thing including sex,sex is important but it is not the most important thing,i'm sure u would want your partner to enjoy being with u,people don't only cheat because of sex,in a relationship u have to work hard to keep your partner happy and he or she has to do the same.Personality and character do matters but it also depends on what the person is looking for,if a guy is looking to have wild and crazy sex all his life then he would choose someone to that standard also good personality and good character doesn't mean that u can't like sex.educate yourself more about sex and u will see its importance in relationships.
2007-01-30 02:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by pacific30 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex is important because we are animals and it is hard-wired into our make up. It's a way that we bond within our species and one of the ways that we use to make a deeper connection with another human being.
People do not cheat, no matter what they say, because of sexual dissatisfaction. They cheat because their reality is unbearable to them and they need the fantasy of new love to make them happy - for the moment. It's a sign of immaturity or serious problems in the relationship, but I'm quite sure it's actually not related to sex. That's just a way to blame the other person for the transgressions of the cheater. A way to rationalize and not take responsibility.
My late husband remained faithful during a 12 year illness. Had he been the cheating kind it would not even have taken that to make him stray. It is never the fault of the partner but something in the person having the affair that is amiss.
I see sex as a barometer, a way to measure the health of a relationship. When things are good outside the bedroom the love and caring can be expressed physically. It may need improvement even when the relationship is good but that kind of discovery is only helpful to the union over all.
2007-01-26 10:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think sex seems so important in marriages and relationships because that is the way people can "unite" with their partner and feel a connection or bond. when cheating on your partner happens, i think it's because the connection or bond is "lost" and you are trying to replace it by being with someone else.
sex is also important because it adds more intimacy between you and your partner.
my personal theory is that when people cheat, the reason they don't just end it with their first partner is b/c they get a certain amount of what they need from that relationship, and then in the "cheating" relationship", they get the remaining amout, that way it's like it always adds upto 100%. Which doesn't make it right, but I think that's why people cheat on their partner.
personality does matter, but i think some people put sex way before really truly looking at or knowing someone's personality. getting to know someone AND their personality before having sex is a crucial part in a relationship.
2007-01-26 10:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by ~Abbey Beth~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship the success of that relationship does not depend upon sex. If the relationship....enjoying each other because you truly love one another....is good...so will the sex be.
The reverse of that is also true. You will never find good sex in a poor relationship. And I don't mean one night stands.
Sex is important but it is the icing on the cake of a great marriage. But consider this. If it were not for the sexual attraction we all have why would there be need for marriage and having children. We would no longer be motivated to make sure it happens.
So we are hard wired to need sex so that there really will be future generations. If only compatibility went along with that.
2007-01-26 09:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't everything but it's always something. All those things you mentioned are key elements to a good relationship, but so is physical attraction, which is why you should have gotten together to begin with. To have sex with the same person who gave birth to your children, who would take a bullet for you, that's a deeper sense of intimacy that most people never know. Once you learn it though, you can't go back, and I think that's why people cheat, they're not connected on that level. Good sex is not about how well you perform, but how deep your connection with the person.
2007-01-26 09:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by Fed Up 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's different for each person. I think it's important, but it shouldn't be the most important thing in a relationship. I mean, unless you're having sex every minute of the day, there HAS to be something else that you're attracted to....the personality, can you have a conversation with the person, etc. Sex is important to me because it's a way of showing love for the other person. It's a way of being one with the other person. But, like I said, it shouldn't be the MOST important thing.
2007-01-26 09:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a huge part of being a human. Yeah, those other things are important, but part of human nature is sex. It's a way to feel close with your partner, to release energy, to relax, and to feel good. But because we're humans, we should be able to work within our relationships to make sex better instead of cheating. I hate cheating and cheaters...although I've known (and actually do love) many. So it's not the only part of a serious relationship, but it is an important part.
2007-01-26 09:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The other things are important, but sex feels sooo good in the present. Also the hormones that come from it creates a feeling of being high. So even the memory recreates that feeling. Also many people confuse lust with love beacsue it satisfies the moment ,but not the long run.
2007-01-26 09:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by naiveandyoung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important because it keeps the bond between two people. However, as I get older, other things are definately more important than sex. A person with character, honesty, morals, etc. go along way. It is definately up to the two people in the relationship. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. I have seen very happy couples - one's with lots of sex and some with none (or little).
2007-01-26 09:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by gracious 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if they base their relationships on sex its not going to work in the first place.
Sex isn't important to me at all. I like it and all, but I don't think I would base anything on it! The real person within is what I look at. They could be the worst person in bed but you know what, you talk about it and try to make it better! If that doesn't work, whatever. If Nuns can live without it the rest of the world can too!
2007-01-26 09:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Whos your mama? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋